Hardly any positive stories?! Options

[LeoCandice]

Konichiwa ! :P

Decided to sneak peek our Malaysian couples one fine day!! So it turns out that negative stories & experiences are flooding the forum... I honestly think that wives shouldnt spend too much time and energy on pleasing your man! It backfires sometime..

So here i am... feeding my curiosity!

P/s Actually i wanna get to know more young parents, and their marriage! :P

[qarezma]

i think u only read the titles, if u read the whole thread there are people sharing their success stories & tips for the other forumers...
of course one would start a thread based on their problems, thats when the others come in to give advice/comments/examples

[uniquesoul]

Do you mean that men will only treasure a women who turns out to be the devil?
We are curious to know what you think about r/ship and marriage. hahaha

[LeoCandice]

@garezma

Yes that is my point actually. Negative stories are being thrown out as "titles" whereas success stories/advices/etc are inside the thread.
Ever wonder why success stories are not as widely published as negative stories? :)
I would end up with too many fancy ideas and suggestions if i were one of the thread starter.. lol

P/s I just quickly went through matters of the heart, again, looking at horrible encounters and stuffs.. Realized how wonderlicious we are! :p * Spreads joy*

@uniquesoul

You'll never know til u try it. *Devil-ish laughs*

p/s May work both ways though :P

[qarezma]

dont u know misery loves company?

only when we are sad we try to express and get someone to listen to us

if one was to start a thread boasting away about their perfect life, how many do u think will reply?

[LeoCandice]

Those who dont see it as boasting.. Like me :).... Its a sort of a motivation or a good example to follow. Besides possible inspirations, may be educational as well. I hope you think much more positive than that when ur not having a bad day. :)

p/s Is there some sort of notifications of new replies around here?

[qarezma]

Those who dont see it as boasting.. Like me :).... Its a sort of a motivation or a good example to follow. Besides possible inspirations, may be educational as well. I hope you think much more positive than that when ur not having a bad day. :)

p/s Is there some sort of notifications of new replies around here?

then i suppose u might not enjoy hanging out there, or better, u can help to change the so-called scenario here.. always welcome

you dont visit the doctor to boast about your good health, do u? does that mean u are thinking sickly every other day?

[LeoCandice]

Lol... I just dont see this forum as a clinic. Although it may be :)

[qarezma]

Lol... I just dont see this forum as a clinic. Although it may be :)

in fact it is all in one... depends on what are your needs... how u look at it

jokes apart, it was a metaphor

[uniquesoul]

Ppl who is having their blissfull marriage don't show off here.. .

[aishiteru]

i'm not sure about other forums where ppl will like to share successful stories of
their marriage...

but i think there are many reasons that why less create a topic telling ppl how successful their marriage are..

1) we are thought to be humble..
2) this forum is for bride to be and most of the members here are newly wed and some who are married for few years...
very rare that ppl who married for 20yrs, it's too soon to said anything yet..

but as i remember we do have topic where we praise our significant others for being good..

anyway it will be good if members here start a topic about the successful marriage of their parents..
it will be great.. :)

[LeoCandice]

I was taught that joy is infectious and contagious!

[aishiteru]

then u can start a topic and infect us with ur joy

[LeoCandice]

Oh lol... take a look at the posts this topic. Joy is forbidden in here!

[qarezma]

Oh lol... take a look at the posts this topic. Joy is forbidden in here!

you are only making cynical comments in all your threads, we are yet to know what is your exact mindset or opinion on one particular subject, aren't you preaching on spreading joys? then please go ahead, we want to see this board in a new light

asides, i think you seem pretty joyful stirring into the thread with your on-the-fence cynical comments

[ophelia]

LeoCandice,
Why don't you start spreading the joy by sharing your positive experiences and bliss in this forum?
I would love to hear your side of a "chicken soup for the soul". :)

[uniquesoul]

Leocandice is like having full negative thoughts deep in his heart but with pouring out 'joyful' comments here. Extremely weird..

[LeoCandice]

Actually... are you guys insecure about something.?? Or its a pattern to pass judges on someone you dont know? I'm sure i've not done anything wrong til now. I think i've been nice all the time...

@garez

I already shared. You just dont get it. And same goes to everyone else who thinks the same. In cases of men. we call it self-centered.
Its fine if anybody disagrees with me.We all have enough rights to do that. The thing is, i did share, and am being told that i didnt, and/or on-the-fense. What?? lol??
I dont wanna turn things bad but there are limits you see. :)

@ophelia

I wanted to. But the mindset here is off. So nah. Im sure there are already joy posts out there.. by strong couples.. :)


@unique

Who else thinks that passing comments on someone you dont even know for a second is a nice thing to do? Anybody can do that to anyone, anytime, anywhere. Not a wise thing to do. I mean it.


I have a happy family. Been through a lot. Learned all sorts of managements and "taming" methods. Evidence??? The status of our marriage. Strong, stable, trust, honesty, loving and whatever you can think of, you have it. <----- Is this joy?

The point is... imagine yourselves fitting exactly into the above statement. How would u feel if you see the above posts, made by total strangers who dont even know you?

[Enchant]

Most of your post in several threads are rather detached or lacking in personal touch or feeling. I think we are more accustomed to lay man terms of things and its easier for us to fathom your joy and blissfullness if you come with a more lay man language instead of using words to give off the wall comments.

How about sharing your real life experience and thoughts of certain issues with real sentiments and better/simpler adjectives instead.

Share with us your blissful marriage. As you said, joy and happiness can be contagious. = )

[LeoCandice]

Yeah i did. On the other topic :)

[uniquesoul]

Oh you did? if yes then there wont be any members here asking u to share abt your comment instead of criticizing and showering negative words at the VERY BEGINNING.

[LeoCandice]

You see it as negative. I see it as something that people never noticed. Especially women. :) Of course its negative... depends how you take it from there. That goes the same to all. Truth is harsh.. Comon u know that better than me. :)

[aisumomo]

I think there has been a misunderstanding or misconception about the forum.
its a very simple reasoning. the section you are referring to is probably the one entitled matters of the heart.
Its purpose is for individuals who face problems to share and get feedback or maybe just to express themselves and move on.
you could call it a heart clinic where we have group therapy and everyone shares and benefits.
Thus is its purpose and that is also the obvious reason why majority of the topics are about problems faced.

so in other words if you think that section is to post happy topics and enlightenment then you're obviously missing the point of that section altogether.

As for the other sections of so called bad/negative posts. well, there are also good ones where brides praise and introduce their BS PG n MUA.
This forum is for brides to share their experiences and for those seeking some information from others.
Obviously there are bound to be positive and negative aspects to a discussion no? where would it be constructive if we only shared the good and not the bad as well.

you mentioned, i quote:

P/s Actually i wanna get to know more young parents, and their marriage! :P

Well, you're getting a good idea that marriage is not a bed of roses. There is always 2 sides to a coin.
Just because more negative experiences is seen throughout it doesnt necessarily mean its a negative aspect of the forum nor its members.
its actually a positive thing too (rmbr 2 sides to a coin) it shows we are willing to share and express, advise and support all a part of the giving and receiving spirit we encourage here at MB.
So through all that negativity seen there is positivity gained in return as well.

Lets not all get side tracked as to what LeoCandice's personal standing is. Everyone is entitled to their views but tact, compassion and constructive input is well advised for the benefit of all members. Its ok to disagree but do disagree in an agreeable manner. ^__^

[LeoCandice]

Its all good now actually. I kinda know how brides think already. Maybe thats just the way of brides' communication.

Btw, the last paragraph should be enlarged, bolded, underlined.

[jaclynjac]

Quite interesting story~~~