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  1. i had preterm contraction scare too... at week 31.. saw the doctor, there was no contraction during the time he monitored, plus no dilation and he gave me steroid jap... ultrasound showed growth of 4 weeks ahead, so even the baby was ready to kick and come out early, but i told him to wait till at least w36... around w33 had similar scare.. this time hubby decided i shd go back to my hometown with my mom... glad i did cos baby came out in w36. But hey i also know many people who have their baby after EDD even with the preterm labour scares
  2. Ash, thanks for sharing, i shall try it out
  3. do u mind sharing the massaging method?
  4. he is shanjeev :) the short version oso comes to sanju, so i am wondering how to find a nickname for him
  5. congrats! well when the pain is at its super-peak yr baby is out and everything gone... nature made is such way for the fruitful ending ;)
  6. sanju is quite different.. after baby came home (i was at my mom's place then) he was ok sleeping thru the night..during that period he was seeing my hubby once in 2 weeks or so.. cos of this whenever hubby is down visiting us, he behaved like super-glue with hubby... dont want to eat/bathe/play.. and now we are at MIL place... ever since we got here sanju has been waking up crying at night, looking for his dad... but now he sees myhubby daily.. so i am hoping his situation improves soon
  7. abt the blame, i was referring to getting me pregnant! :P i used to worry my NB will disturb my toddler's sleep.. it is instead the other way round.. for some reason sanju has been waking up at night crying, and needs his daddy to console him... while the NB getting irritated LOL i enjoy co-sleeping on the whole :)
  8. my kid was more into climbing onto his dad for hugging to sleep.. with me he will cuddle beside me... but there were instances when my boy used to sit on my tummy and jump as if i am some jumperoo for him... difficult to tell him off or scold... i would instead put him down and ask him to sayang my tummy by leaning his face on it.. and then if he still wants to jump on him, i let him sit on my lower abdomen, like just above the thighs and jump all he wants i used to be so stressed abt handling him during my pregnancy, but u know, it just came and we handled it.. most importantly dont get angry or hit him for that, cos it will make him feel even more 'less wanted' especially with the baby comng (i know it is easy to say, even i lost my temper a few times, but the key is always to try to get angry less) when at home with my kid, after 7mth onwards i stopped carrying him up the stairs.. we held hands and he would walk instead and we will count the steps together... but of course i did carry him at other time.. i think after 8th month only i stopped carrying him cos i was resting at my mom's hse now with the NB's presence, i let my son play near me while i BF.. and he like to sayang, kiss, and 'carry' baby.. i dont stop him. but he is in his terrible two, so when his mood is not right, he tends to hit the NB... sometimes NB will cry, sometimes he tak kisah.. hehe.. i dont scold my kid for it.. i tell him 'baby pain' and talk to him about it another thing... we co-sleep with NB & kid in the same room, we have queen bed and single bed put together... earlier used to worry if NB's crying at nite will disturb my kid.. but so far (did this for 3 nites) seems all ok.. *touchwood* dealing with a kid + baby is not easy, but not impossible either.. so hang in there.. i know i was spreading my worries and problems on this forum too... and learning to deal with it after sharing and getting advice from mamas here.. i might come back later for more support ;) and hey.. me too if hubby complain too much, i always scold him back on 'his fault' lol
  9. i hv to agree with Sharon... i might send my son to playschool for fun and making frens, but i dont want to start the pressure so soon i see no difference on the 'intelligence' level of kids who have gone for 2 or more years of kindy...
  10. i had premature contractions, and some other health issues due to anemic.. so i had tonnes of MC, and boss had to allow me to work from home.. i suggest u to get a 2nd opinion... chances are it is nothing to worry abt, at least u will get it off yr chest too
  11. both my babies were born before EDD (no.1 3 weeks bef, and no.2 4 weeks before) and thankfully for both i was working from home 1 month before delivery, in fact for no.2 i worked almost 3 months from home before delivery.. so ur maternity leave only start conuting once ur bb come out? my company does not allow work from home i guess.. now everyday i'm sitiing in the office surfing net n doing nthg as i've alr passed down my job to my backup.. makes me even more nervous n impatient.. it depends on yr company, most companies start maternity leave 2 weeks before EDD... not many will allow to wait until the day
  12. both my babies were born before EDD (no.1 3 weeks bef, and no.2 4 weeks before) and thankfully for both i was working from home 1 month before delivery, in fact for no.2 i worked almost 3 months from home before delivery..
  13. thats braxton hicks... contraction will be more painful, like period cramps, or even worse
  14. for my no.1 i was induced, and i had natural delivery.. and for no.2 i had natural delivery with quite short labour... having said that, if your medical condition needs c-sec, by all means go ahead... babies and mothers after c-sec also lead normal lives as natural ones :)
  15. i too wonder the same, have i tried enough? like u, i dont quite get along with my ILs, neither do i enjoy myself visiting them or even being around them.. there are so many differences in lifestyle, language and culture. But since ive married my hubby, it makes me a part of them, and i just try to gel along.. i say 'try' cos its not usually that easy. The evil side of me dreads visiting them... and i know my hubby realises it... just need to tolerate la.. as how my hubby tolerates my family (no one is perfect after all)
  16. how do u massage? so far so good, but it is my first pump anyways :P
  17. hehe i am a beginner myself.. from my understanding let down is the rush of milk coming out while nursing or pumping... expert mamas pls advice
  18. any tips or tricks to achieve let down when using medela harmony?
  19. maybe yr MIL has a special method or something that gets him eating veg? i do notice my son too is sometimes selective in the way he behaves during meal times... certain food fed by my mom would pass, but if i give, he will eat like a sparrow...
  20. my first baby engaged by w37, and was delivered within days after that.. 2nd one din engage, but his head was down for 5 weeks before that.. qarezma, ur 2nd baby is natural birth or c-sec? Is it all natural birth, baby must engage or else have to go for c-sec? both my babies are natural delivery it does not work that way... not all babies in fact do engage... and i read somewhere the 1st baby is more likely to engage, the others, not much.. anyhows there are other situations that might determine natural or c-sec.. baby not engaged is not among them :) dont worry yourself over that...
  21. my kids are 1.5 yrs apart... haha... purple, sanju is bottle feeding, he can hold and drink on his own, but u know, he is used to the attention, and so is mummy used to being by his side, talking sweet things while he drinks. another thing is his drinks are before nap and bedtime, so it helps for him to sooth and doze off... if i am by his side once he is done with the bottle i will hug and lie beside him, and he sleeps of immediately.. one advantage of still being on the bottle zeroflower, just as how we were consoling each other during pregnancy.. now too! yea, the gift of life, i am looking forward for my baby to grow older then me and sanju will hv a great time playing with him he does get excited seeing the little moving toy (baby) but u know they are kids, they dont know how to be gentle or rough, so when he is excited his gestures are hard... he will need time i guess my cousin's 2yo also had similar behaviours when she got her no.2... these reactions are normal for them.. and i suppose us mothers feeling this is normal too.. only thing it is NOT fun when we go thru these emotions i also regret the same, not spending enuf time, so i somehow try to do all solid and milk feedings for him.. and i hope i will be able to continue doing the same once back at my place.. the time for them is really important hubby is supportive and very helpful.. and it feels doubly better to share feelings with like-minded moms over here.. luv ya all.. hugs
  22. zeroflower, are u sending both your kids to the same bbsitter?
  23. my first baby engaged by w37, and was delivered within days after that.. 2nd one din engage, but his head was down for 5 weeks before that..
  24. piggy87, purple, best wishes to both of u..it's not going to be easy.. I'm just praying we'll get tru it n stay sane at the end of it.. Yes, i suppose so Q. I'm really sorry for u too... I'm not happy that ur suffering as well but it's a comfort knowing I'm not the only one who's having high n lows evryday with my kids. Hope u know what i mean. My 2 yr old just wouldnt listen too,maybe cos she wants attention, testing my love or just having fun, i dont know. She squeezes baby's toes sometimes, maybe geram but when i tell her off or push her had away saying she's hurting baby n she wouldnt like it if someone else does it to her, she scratches me instead, which leads me to scold her or beat her (if she continues to scratch or starts another mischief like kicking or shouting). I do feel that she's more mischievous eversince baby arrived. As for my 1 mth baby, she wants to be carried or rocked all the time it's driving me nuts. I do not make it a habit but when i put her down on the cot, 5-10 min later, she screams her lungs out. It's really loud! HEr whole face will turn red, n her whole body will shake! It's like as tho someone hit her. So i'll have to carry n pacify her n try to put her down again. It's a whole never ending cycle. Every night, it a max of 4 hours of sleep for me... I tried sending her to babysitter for a few hours n babysitter was complainig that baby will cry every time she puts her down :( i really dont know what to do.. I love both of them to bits but at times i wonder if we did the right thing n regret having 2nd so soon. Feel so bad for feeling that way. As for hubby n i, no time for each other at all..we're just existing.. :S i know what u mean.. when i saw your post while i was totaly down, it was kind of assuring knowing that it is not me & my toddler... becos when things were happening such way for me, i felt like my communication with my toddler has totally broken down, i even started blaming myself for losing temper, causing him to retaliate. Sanju is the same.. he will first pat and sayang baby, and then he will slap NB's head, squeeze the hand or even scratch.. once left a small mark.. i dont want to scold him or shoo him away, but if he is going to be potentially hurting, i need to stop him right many times ive regretted having the second baby, plus he sleeps most of the time, so ive not really got much of a bond with him.. only thing he looks a lot like Sanju, it reminds me of Sanju's NB days. 2 days ago i had difficult time with him at night... hardly slept.. but at least day time he sleeps so i can tk care of sanju.. right now is honeymoon period.. once i am back at my place, i donno how am i gonna handle the 2... NB seems to cry for milk when i am feeding sanju milk (and sanju drinks only 3 times a day.. imagine the coincidence?) Once when i was losing temper badly on sanju, i told my mom (to sort of justify me losing it) that Sanju really makes me angry with his tantrums, and my mom told me 'sanju also might be angry with u for having a baby so soon' her words really put me to shame, but i cant deny the truth in it aish.. i also tell myself.. if others can do it, why not me... haha.. thinking positive
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