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  1. Actually I've meet up with the CEO twice. Once in February and last week. But he keep saying "we have a lot of payment on schedule and most probably will come in by next week" and the next week seems to be forever. I know that finally i can only go for legal case but I dun think I can afford it since I dun even get my pay. What are the chances of winning over a company? The frustration is all my colleagues are very scare of reporting it. They just said, maybe next week will be the payment. Imagine till now I'm the only 1 that went to confront the CEO. I sign the Contract of Service and my salary is clearly stated in the contract. I accepted the offer from the new company but I still haven't give them the actual date that I'll join them as I still hoping to get my salary first. I was worried that if I submit my resignation, I will not get my salary at all. I'm now totally lost.
  2. Hi all, I guess some of you may have heard about this from me at the shout out box. My situation still not solve. I join this company 1st Jan 2009 and this is a contract job whereby I dun get EPF and others. I sign an employment contract with the company. I'm so unlucky that I didn't get my pay since I join. Now already mid-March but i still haven't get even my January payment. Not only me but all my colleague also. The company disburse some money to us twice, once RM1,500 then another time is RM500. So for some of my colleague who is lower pay might already cleared their January salary. But that amount didn't even cover half of my January salary. (My salary is RM7K). I have been constantly sending email and talk to the CEO about this. But he keeps dragging like giving empty promises. What I guess is he dun even have money to pay us as he is waiting for the client to pay him. I already got another job offer but not sure how to handle my accrued salary as I worried that I won't get a penny if I leave. I called up labor office but they said above RM5K not protected. Any advice?
  3. hi all, I have one like the above. It's useful at the begining when my bb still can't sit and crawl. But now she didn't want it anymore. It useful when u use if for solid feeding. Too bad she no longer interested so now she prefer to sit on high chair for solid feeding.
  4. Thanks meiteoh, My story is quite long. Hope all of you can bear with me. I was with Shell previously. But I was being transferred to northern region. I was there for about 2yrs and I decided to start my family in KL. So I quit my job as I couldn't get the transfer. I got married and be a full time homemaker with a few part time job. My hb is earning enugh for us. We are staying with my IL. B4 married, I already stayed with them and I choose to stay with them when my hb gave me the options to choose on whether to move out. Part of the reason is because I know I do not have a job by then and I do not wan to burden my hb with homeloan as now he's already paying the homeloan for my IL's house. Later on, we had our daughter and things are quite ok just that we couldn't afford for better lifestyle. However, after staying at home for about a yr plus, I felt bored and wish to something more. As after my bb is out, I couldn't afford to do anymore part time job as I'm tied down by the housework. Furthermore, I wish to own a house as I felt after having my bb, I wish we could have more space at home. For eg: a room for my bb and there are things that we can't do publicly in the house, we have to do it in our room and I guess u all understand the inconvenient. The main reason is I hope my bb can grow in better environment as my IL house is quite crowded. Then I decided to start working. Initially, my hb hesitated but finally he agreed. I join a local company and things was well. As I told them that my limitation is I do not want to have travelling. So they agreed and I was in the job for 2mths. Everything went well such as I get to go back at 6pm sharp and no traveling and the pay is good. The problem starts when my company did not pay my salary. I was in for 2 mths but I only got 20% of my total salary. The reason the CEO gave me is the client haven't made payment. Then my ex-co Shell offer me a job which makes me very happy that I have 2nd chance for my career. But to my disappointment, my hb did not back me up. He seems to concern on the job scope and the work load that might reduce my time at home. I have not receive the confirmation on which role I'll be in but I know it will definitely in the Retail line. And i know that all the retail role in shell requires traveling domestically. Some is not that extensive. My hb is a very family person and will spend all his time off work with family. I know his concern but this opportunity is the last that I can get to re-enter such a great company. I'm really confused now. My hb ask me to decide myself but I know deep down he's unhappy with it. Of course joining this company will realize my dream of owning my own house but how about my hb. I still putting hope that the offer will be on less-traveling job. Sometime, I tend to be frustrated why man can accept any job and travel as they like but we can't. My hb travel every 2mths for at least a week. But why can't I travel domestically 1 or 2 days once in a while? I do have the passion to build my career but does it mean I need to forgo it for my family. My hb will always said if he had choice, he would not choose a traveling job. He said he rather me staying in my current company than moving to Shell. But this company dun even pay my first month salary. I really dun have confidence in this company anymore. I love my family a lot but does it mean I need to sacrifice my dream? I'm sad and confused as I dun get my hb support on this. Please advice me on how to handle this
  5. hi all, I know this topic has been created long ago and I think the discussion is over. But I'm having sort of similar problem here and wish to get some support and advice from you all. Not sure I can throw my problem here or not?
  6. Can consider Snow Bear Steriliser and Lindam Universal Steriliser
  7. I'm using MAM and feel it's great. I like it coz it's BPA free and the ultivent nipple is soft like breastfeed... The most important part is the hygiene coz MAM has parts that can be open and allows u to wash it thoroughly.
  8. hi lw_cath, It's lucky that u realize urself has the depression symptom. It's easier to get better if u know what's wrong with u. Is very normal to have post-natal blues as we are all first time mother mah... I also had post-natal depression for about 3mths. I guess it's because my bb has G6PD. I was so happy when i came out of the labor room and so excited having my bb. But all of sudden, the doc told me that my bb need to be under photolight and stay in the hospital for 1 week because she has G6PD. All of sudden the world turn dark as I tot G6PD is some serious disease and all the excitement gone. When I went home, I started to miss my daughter and started crying. With all the engorgement, things is worse. I need to pump my BM every 2 hrs to make up the supply for my bb in hospital. I will go from Kepong to Gleneagles everyday to visit my daughter. My hubby was even more kesian coz he need to go to the hospital twice a day to deliver the BM. I started to have a lot of funny funny thought in mind and started to think that my I'm not a good mother that I caused my bb to have G6PD and a lot of stupid things... I recover because my HB told me tat I had depression and showed me an article about it. After reading about it, I realise that I'm not the only 1 having this problem and it's normal to feel like that. And just like that I'm recover :P Poor him that he had to go thru all this nonsense that I made during the 3mths...Looking back, I felt funny that I can even suspect my HB cheating on me when he's 24/7 at home during that initial 2mths. He's like my confinement "lady" doing all the washing and serving me... My IL are all very supportive of BF but my own family is different bcoz they dun BF. I get a lot of comment from my mother asking me to eat ginger (I didn't have any ginger or herbal coz I BF and my bb has G6PD). She keep asking me to stop BF and take care of my own body. I know she worried about me so I normally will lie to her and said I got eat some herbal...just to calm her down... My MIL was very supportive and try to cook the best without using any ginger and herbal and always encourage me to BF. I guess we need to go thru all this hardship b4 we can be a mother. There's no mother in this world who didn't care about their own children. After having my own bb, I started to be appreciate my mum a lot even though she doesn't share the same idea on how to take care of my bb. But I know she still wish for the best for me...Just they might express it in the wrong way...My parent still dun understand what is G6PD and that's why I never leave my bb with them coz it's dangerous if they apply those traditional balm on my bb that contains those herbal...I choose to avoid the conflict with them and I think that's the best I can do... We just need to remember that how difficult to be a mother ourselves, then we will be more forgiving towards our own parent...
  9. I gave my bb both the vaccines. The rotavirus first 2 dose she took in Gleneagle and the last 1 she took in a private paed in Kepong. The price is more expensive when we took it at the private paed in Kepong. Hard to compare coz his normal consultation is cheaper than the Gleneagle, just the vaccines is more expensive. However I choose the private paed in Kepong coz he's very patience and detail and gave very simple explanation to us. To my disappointment the paed that I went in Gleneagles are too rushy and always no time for us. Very obvious comparison is: There's one time I notice a white color thing in my bb belly button. The Gleneagle's paed that I went said is a normal thing and just the skin. But I was not convince so I brought my bb to the other paed in Kepong, he said it's a cotton and he took it out. See...how a high reputation paed can miss such a simple thing. I guess is because he's busy with other appointment.
  10. snowflakes, i would advice u to talk face to face to ur husband and solve the issue. If u decided that u want to salvage the marriage then truly believe him one more time and start fresh else the issue will end with 1 solution that is divorce. My hb always have a lot of admirer around him. I understand that it's not his fault and he's loyal to me. Let me share my story with u. My husband used to have an ex that always bug him for everything. His ex is a divorcee and always come to my hb for help. I've always been open minded about it and I also pity her so I allow my hb to help her. But when after I deliver my bb, i've postnatal blues. I started to think a lot. I used to be very open minded. My hb accompany me 24/7 for 2mths after my delivery. He stayed at home and work from home. Then 1 day I saw his ex prompt him thru gtalk. And all of sudden I just get jealous and started to have a lot of weird assumption in my head. I started to keep silent and refuse to talk to him. Regreted that I have bb. Then a lot of stupid things... Then 1 day he couldn't hold it anymore and ask me why I acting cold towards him. Then I just burst out and told him that is he having affair with his ex and some other stupid Q. Then he told me that he is 24/7 with me and how can he be with other woman. Actually he already suspected me having depression and done some survey online. He showed one of the survey to me and I read it. True enught that I had all the symptom. And tat's how I started to felt stupid. After that incident, I realise cold war will makes the relationship worse as both of u are guessing each other. Is either u talk it out and sort the issue. I agree with meiteoh that if u continue pushing him away, u will lose ur marriage. Without communications, nobody knows wat u want. I know is easy to said than done. if u still want to give this marriage a try, then u must try to start fresh.
  11. Citrine, I'm staying with my IL. I'm lucky that my mil is very modern and open minded. But I still dun feel very comfortable at home. As u said, our parent pamper us a lot and we can do just anything at home. For eg: u can lie down in the hall to watch TV but now in my IL house, I can't do it coz is awkward. My HB did ask me b4 married whether I want to stay in or we buy a low cost house first. I agree to move in bcoz I dun wan my hubby to feel burden. But wat we did is, we renovated our room into a bigger room with a small living room in our room. So initially, I'm not very comfortable downstairs, I just spend my time in my room. I treated my room as a studio apartment with toilet and TV in it . I know she always wanted to make me feel like home. But it's different. I'm raised in a different enviroment. Actually I'm the one that always kept a distance from her. I didn't dare to talk to her too freely coz I'm a straight person and I worry I will ter-say something wrong. My hubby always convince me that my mil likes me and things like that. Like you, b4 marry, i never do housework and my parent pamper me a lot. Although my mil nvr demand me to do anything, but I will do as much as I can especially taking care of my bb and my hb. My concept is, even I dun like to do housework, I can't be asking my mil to wash my clothes and clean my room rite... But after 2yrs now I'm getting closer to my mil and started to treat her like my mum.I started to tell her everything like wat happen in office and every details when I reach home from work, my mum sometime get jealous that she dunno as much thing about me...However, there are still a thin wall for me coz I still can't 100% be comfortable. i still wish to have my own house.
  12. Hi, I'm a newbie here. I would like to share my breastfeeding experience here. My daughter has G6PD deficiency. So when she was born, the doctor inform us that she need to be place under the photolight for a week to control her jaundice that is caused by G6PD. I was quite upset and wanted to stay in the hospital to accompany her as well as BF her. However, due to my in-experience on BF, I have nipple sore. It's quite serious that blood is coming out from the nipple. The nurses advices me to rest for a day so that my bb won't drink the blood. The nipple sore is due to my inverted nipple and my bb tend to bite it. So wat I do is, I went home and rest for a nite. I cried whole nite thinking that I couldn't BF my daughter while she's suffering in the hospital. I stayed up whole nite to keep pumping out the dirty blood and using the nipple shield to protect my nipple. Luckily, fresh milk start coming out the next morning. The doctor advices me to prevent from taking any chinese herbal and ginger and alcohol if I plan to BF my bb. This is because G6PD bb can't take certain herbal. As a safety precautions, we didn't take any. My MIL only cooks chicken soup and plain rice for me. I eat a lot hoping that it will boast my BM supply. And true enough, it really boast up my milk production. My husband have to go to the hospital twice a day sending my BM. It's really quite tiring for him as we stayed in Kepong and we need to travel to Ampang twice a day. I only follow him to the hospital once a day which is at nite. Everybody advising me not to go as I'm on my confinement and they worried that I'll catch cold. But I couldn't bear not seeing her. Everytime I see her suffering under the photolight, my heart breaks. After a week she was discharge. I tried direct feed her using the nipple shield but she refused. So I've no choice but to pump and bottle feed. She came home on Saturday but was admitted for photolight again on Monday. Her jaundice shot up to 300. It really hurts to send her back to hospital. But that's the best for her. My daughter is a small eater and she only take half of my supply. So we store the remaining in a freezer. I continued BF till about 5mths as I was not working then. But when my first period came, the supply drop and according to the doctor is normal and it catch up after that. At about the 2nd month, we decided to use the old BM and keep the new 1. But we realise the taste of the milk turn smelly. We check with the doctor and the internet, they are saying the milk is fine as long as it's not sour. The taste change due to the fat composition change. It happen to certain ppl. The saddest part is my bb refuse to drink those milk. Since she's a small-eater and we do not want her to miss the meal, so we decided not to use the old milk and just giving her the fresh 1. Around 4th month, my supply drop so I mix with FM. The worse case happen that she like the FM and refuse the BM. We are so sad but we tried to mix both together and feed her. I've stop BF at end of 5th month as she's refusing and my supply has decrease a lot. I really felt regretted that I can't BF her. I was targeting on BF her till at least a yr. And now, my husband was asking me on what to do with the old BM as I felt hesitated to throw it away. If I've known that the smell will changed and my bb can't finish it, I would have donated it to hospital. Now that I have at least 100oz in the freezer, I really dunno wat to do with it. We tried to feed my daughter with those milk once in a while but she still refused it... The funny thing about my daughter is she will only drink if she's in a blur blur condition --- she needs to sleep for at least 30mins then we must feed her while she's sleeping. Once she's awake, she will refuse the feeding and she would rather skip the meal. So we can't force her to drink the BM as it will wakes her up and end up she will skip the meal. And now she's already 7mth... p/s: sorry for writing such a long reply
  13. Dear MM, Do not waste the BM. Try buying those cooler bags that comes with icepack. It allows you to keep the breast milk inside for a few hours.
  14. Hi MM, I was a full time mum till my bb is 6mths old. I have almost the same experience with you. My bb is a small eater and shallow stomach..she vomit when she eat a little more... I BF for the first 5mths. I mix with FM when my supply is less and she started to refuse BM. I have around 100oz of old BM that I need to throw off coz she refuse to drink...i realli feel wasted but i if I force her to drink, she rather missed the meal...and I have no choice coz she's already very thin, so i need to give her FM...I've tried mixing formula into BM but then my paediatric advice me not to do that as it will changed the composition to be too thick and harmful for the bb disgestion. When I started working last month, she refuse my MIL during her feeding. For the first 2 days she eat less than 20oz for a 6mths old bb. But I set my alarm to wake up twice during the midnite to feed her as I hope it can compensate what she missed during day. And after a week, my MIL manage to feed her more than what I used to feed her when I'm at home. I was very sad when she refused to drink for the first week and I did hesitated to resign as well. But now everything works well. Give your bb some time, they need to adjust to changes. I do get postnatal blues due to her feeding issue, I blame myself for everything...and I felt I'm the worst mother...but then when my hubby showed me a few forum where other mummys are having the same issue as me...i just suddenly recover from the blues... So remember that u are not the only 1... Speak out and you will feel better... You can try my way that you wake up a few times at nite to express the milk or feed her...and let the nanny to feed her on formula...
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