Im trying to loose weight for my honeymoon now, so I have less than a month.. sigh.. have a sure lose way, but need lotsa determination and is it rather unhealthy
When i was trying to loose weight for my wedding (ps & ad), i took the crash diet route. I know, its bad and cause the yoyo effect, but thats the only way that works for me. Exercising and healthy eating should be the ideal way, but budget was tight so i didnt sign up for gyms, also i hate to sweat and schedule btw me and hubby wasnt really compatible for both of us to sign up. So, my diet daily was just water, juice, fruits throughout the day, and no more than 5 spoons of solid food for dinner ( i chose dinner cos i simply cant sleep if im too hungry). I love 6kg - 7kg in about 3 weeks. (logically, its mostly water weight, and since im starving all the time, body burns fat to keep me alive i guess). But the effect was amazing, everyone commented how much ive lost, thighs was visibly slimmer, arms too, tummy had the best effects. I used both uzap and mini uzap for those areas, trying to avoid orange peel. And i guess it worked. But the downside is, once after my AD, i started eating normally (ok, perhaps binge more than usual to compensate months of starvation! :P), i put on about 5kg in less than a month!!!! with the CNY period, im back to where I was before I start dieting. So guess now its time to try to recreate wat i did, hopefully i can fit into an itsy bikini by end of this month. :)
personal opinion, there should always be some form of alcohol at a wedding. even if the couple or even all family members dont drink, it cannot be that every single guest do not drink. Most people would welcome drinks, they are not there to mooch off your alcohol, but a toast of alcohol is always the way to celebrate.
But if i was invited to a wedding without alcohol, no prob also la... just would prob felt something missing... especially when you do the toast to the guest part.... yum seng with chinese tea? Sparkling juice?
Ultimately, if you are the kind that bothers with what people think of your wedding and sensitive to comments, then better have a least beer. Else, if you can ignore what ppl say about your wedding, then go ahead. Most importantly you and hubby is happy! :)
jac dear, poor you, never knew you were going thru this, so long never chat with you... hope you are ok. Call if you need to talk ok.
For me, i would say that your hubby really need to take a step back. As husbands, i feel they are the bridge btw the wife and parents. Actually same for us, we are the bridge btw our parents and husband. Both of us needs to do our duty to make sure that both side is happy. For me, no such thing as he is so stucked in btw, but somehow choose to make his parents happy 1st before me! there has to be justice btw both parties.
My situation, as chinese custom goes, reunion dinner eve and 1st day CNY is of course at in law's house. My parents also undersand that... but 2nd day CNY after lunch, i will head back to Malacca and spend time with my mom for about 2 days or 3 days. My in laws last time did voice out and object cos they say 2nd day and 3rd day need to visit their relatives they want me to go. But i discussed with my hubby and made him talk to them, rationale out that its also chinese tradition to 'huey liang jia' go back to the gals mom house.
Would really say you need to speak to ur hubby and make him understand that he is making you so unhappy that you are doubting this marriage. Also, since its near, i suggest that a clear solutiuon for your usual weekends would be you still sleep both nights as ILs house, but they must give you 1 whole day to spend time with your parents, siblings and all. If they want you to go back ILs house to sleep at night i think ok lor (cos lotsa old ppl say when the DIL sleep at moms house, its a sign that the husband of wife is fighting). As for CNY, i feel on the 2nd day cny, at least they have to let you spend whole day and sleep at parents hse. Cos thats the chinese tradition also.
Actually, in this modern day, we should not be so summited to ILs anymore. Not to be rude, but it is cos with all our work, social life, new hubby, IL and all, pity our parents also, suddenly lose a daughter. Im thinking also after 5 yrs married or so, will start voicing out for them to let me have reunion dinner alternate years with my family. Cos I am the only child actually, pity the old folks eat without me for reunion dinner.....
i feel now it is so scary, anytime can be retrench, then how to survive? Now wedding just over, gonna spend on honeymoon somemore.. if kena retrenched, wah die lor.. have to pinjam tai yi long wo.. hahahahaha
guess its really time to save up more for the rainy day.. sigh