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  1. ola everyone... i have been so inactive in the forum, been so busy with my baby ethen.. hes 15 months by e way... i was looking thru the form and found this topic which i start.. 2 yrs passed...guess what, my SIL is still single!!! can u belief it, this is like my same new yr reso... i have just introduced her to my colleague... but its starting really slow...
  2. sandy, hope ur recovering well. hugs to you. i took one year off from TTC, because i wasnt ready emotionally. then i started trying in oct 2008 and conceive after 4 cycle in feb 09. i was very careful because my gynea say (touch wood) women who went thru ectopic will have a higher chance of experiencing the same thing again. so, right after i did my pregnancy test i went to see my gynea the week after. my gynea said it was too early and asked for me to come back after 2 weeks. they are able to detect the baby's heartbeat in 6 weeks through the vaginal scan. i totally understand how u feel now. i really do. just rest well, eat well, and the rest leave it to God. and dont rush it, take a break with hubby. for me and hubby, we went to cameron highlands for few days, u know, just a short simple near-by break to relax. we went to the teh boh plantation up the hill, it was fantastic. i had tea and scones, up the hill overlooking the greenery and it was really chilly coz it was raining cats and dogs. i had fun really!! so, pls dont rush it. my ears are here for you, message me whenever you wan k? take care! twinkles, yes normally you dont take anything heavy before D&C, for me, i had bread and milo and my D&C was about 2pm. it takes about 30 mins. u wont feel a thing. plus did u check whether ur gynea will be using the metal scrapper or the vacuum? mine uses the vacuum.
  3. i cried when i read pal's and nwp's reply. hats off to ur strength! i didnt have one MC but two. both happened on the same yr. year 2007 was a horrible year for me. long story short...i had blighted ovum in march 2007. i still remember waiting in the operation room, waiting for my gynea to perform D&C. it was a quiet afternoon. i didnt talk to anyone, my frens came before my D&C to make sure i was ok. i could hear the clock ticking away..minutes before i was pushed in to the operation room, i said my goodbyes to my lil angel... second MC came months later, in aug 2007. i had ectopic pregnancy, i was having massive bleeding and fainted. i was rushed to hospital and the doc told my hubby, if it was half an hr delay, i would be gone. i was 2 mths pregnant at that time. i was in ICU and had almost 5 packs of blood transfusion. i had machines around me, monitoring everything. just to make sure that my body didnt reject the blood intake. i lost my right tube. i was in depression. 4 months later in dec 2007, my mom passed away! so, i lost 3 of my loved ones in the same year. i was almost suicidal. i was referred to a psychologist and he prescribed me medicine for few mths but nothing helped. i was angry at myself and tot i will never ever have a child...because i have only one tube, what are the odds right? fast forward 2 yrs later...i gave birth to a healthy baby boy oct last year, my little precious. he is almost 6 mths now. so big hugs to twinkle, pal, nwp and all mommies who went through this. i belief that god will give you anything when you are ready. so, twinkle, dont give up and have hopes. take care and eat well!
  4. this topic had me thinking. my mom passed away 2 yrs back. she died of liver failure. she was admitted a night before she passed on and i was there the whole night. prior to that day she has been unwell but not suffering. so when she was admitted and doctor asked us to be ready, i know that she wont be able to make it home again. cut the story short, during her final moments, everyone was around, everyone bid their farewells, but i don't think she recognize us anymore. she was on strong drugs. as soon as her heart stop, the doctors came running and did a CPR on her. i was furious, i mean whats the point? so that she could suffer for another few hrs??? the doctors explained it was their duty to save her and its not ethical to see her die just like that. i mean i dont understand the logic, shes not to be saved! i mean, who are we kidding here. we all know its impossible to get a liver transplant just like that!!! so the next 4 hrs she was in total pain and she was around all kinda machines. it broke my heart. i had to leave the room and stayed at the cafe. my hubby was there the whole time. finally he called me in and said mom has left us. it was about 12.20 when she passed away. i was in tears but in a way, happy that she no longer suffer. on the last day of her funeral, i swear am not making this up, but everyone saw her smiling before they closed the coffin. i do miss her everyday, i cry when i think of her, just like now. but am truly happy shes finally free of pain, free of suffering. i miss you mom
  5. this is the first time i read that its ok to give water to infant. my paed said no no to water until baby is 6 mths, especially those on exclusive BM. honey and glucose is a big no no, so whats right and whats wrong? my baby was on BM first 2 mths (so i never gave him water) and after that hes on BM and FM up to now 17 weeks. i let him drink water when he turned 12 weeks. yes, same thing, he hates water. he will take a bit and pull away from the bottle or he will chew on the bottle teats. same as eunice, i let my baby drink after he wakes up every nap, i will prepare the water same as the milk temperature, just to trick him to drink. but like all babies these days, hes smart, taste it, pause, thinks and spit out. all in all, he only drinks 1.5 to 2 oz a day. the rest are BM and FM. his stools look OK, in fact it looks the same as when he was on full BM. my gynea said that even tho i top of FM, as long as there's BM, baby's stools would be OK, they call it the ice cream paste stools. i think i will into the straw method when he turns 6 :)
  6. totally agree! hats off to you fluene for waking up 4x at night. i wake up max twice and even then i let my baby latch while lying down. i never express at night, maybe that's why my milk supply is really low. but then when my baby latch i can hear him gulp, so am not sure. maybe my boobs are trained for latching only and not for expressing. i am so desperate to take medication to boost my milk! during weekdays i only get max 2 hrs with precious after pickin him from nanny's. weekends full day, but since workload has increase, i am required to work full day on either sat or sun. i have been working every weekend so as soon as i come home by 4ish, i will play with him, bathe him, talk to him, etc... but its very tiring because after i come home i need to do housework, so even when am playin wit him, my mind is elsewhere thinking about what housework to do, what projects i have on hand, should i change job, etc etc...but then of course all this mind wondering is on and off coz whenever precious giggles while playing with his toys, he captures my heart, so my focus is all back on him. fluene, since u started tis topic, it makes me think twice that i really want to change job so that i have more time with precious. seeing them grow up is just once in a lifetime thing, today she/he might be 3 mths old, developing new skills which i do not want to miss out, 2 weeks from now its another new skills. i still remember when he was one day old, and now hes 3 mths old. and suddenly i miss him when he was one day old...do i make sense??? in a nutshell i wan to be around to see him grow, hence i need more time with him. that reminds me, i need to drop by at 4D kuda/sports toto to buy me a lottery!
  7. i dont agree in trainin baby to sleep thru the night, to me, if my son wants milk, i will give him milk, no question about it. he is 12 weeks now and i notice a pattern. he drinks almost every hourly between 8pm to 11pm, and after, he sleeps for at least 5 hrs until his next feed. to me, this is way better than when he was a month old, when he wants milk every 1 1/2 hrs coz he tends to sleep a lot while i BF him. my paed calls him a comfort drinker. i too disagree with feedin baby water at night, its just wrong! diana , dont worry! my son tends to sleep better when he turned 10 weeks old. newborns are like that, always wan mummy to carry, cuddle and then zzzz in ur arm because they feel safe and loved. just hang on k, it can be pretty tiring and at times frustrating because ur already very tired, not gettin enuff sleep and u want to just let her sleep so u can relax and nap. but this wont happen anytime soon. not to scare u my dear, but its normal. she needs time to get use to this new environment.
  8. diana, i've been thru the baby-drink-and-sleep-put-her-down-and-cry cycle. oh boy, it was very tiring but hang on k, it will soon be over. its actually pretty normal for all babies to go thru this stage. like wat mabel say, too much space scares the lil one. my son finally got over the cycle when he reaches 10 weeks. now he sleeps soundly after i put him to bed. wat i did was i carried him till he sleeps, after 30 mins i let him lie on top of me and i normally nap with him. after full moon i let him sleep on his tummy on bed but i constantly have to check on him. most of the time i lie down on my bed lookin at him. as for BF-i think ur precious is gettin enuff milk. so long she latch on u, ur milk supply will improve. keep it up girl!!
  9. hey pearly, remember to enjoy the process :) dont think bout making love just to conceive. i tried for 4 cycles and conceived. remember to lie down for at least 15mins after ur hubby ejaculates in you. and to have sex few days before ovulation to increase the chances as well. know that getting preggie is like striking a lottery. even if you have done all the right thing, ie, have frequent sex during ovulation, good diet, etc, is all about the perfect timing. because our egg is out to greet dear mr sperm within 24 hrs only. if she didnt meet her perfect match within that window of time, she will say good bye until the next egg release. so, dont stress, enjoy the process, take folic acid and stay positive! big hugs!
  10. i agree wit aisumomo. if u dont like the way CL handles ur baby u can shoot her, but if MIL u need to tolerate. but for me, my mil is my cl and surprisingly she takes good care of me and baby. but she always say things for me to fire her back. which i did and dont care. shes very against BF and to me and hubby, we support BF all the way. shes very old school but no doubt, she takes good care of my son. so, it depends wat type of MIL is urs? if u decide to take mil, then u must tell ur hubby that he has to stand on ur side if shes wrong. or else u very susah my dear.
  11. thanks ladies...ur advice and support calms me. big hugs. i agree, maybe i will send him to babysitter a day or 2 trial this week and see how it goes. my babysitter is very frank, she said she will put my baby to sleep in sarong (bouncing net) coz zhe reckons is easier for babies to fall asleep. i have no qualms but my paed said it can be dangerous as babies are not meant to be shaken, does that consider as shaking baby to sleep? apparently, studies shown that babies shaken vigorously can lead to fatality. gasp! scary!
  12. i have been so emo, every time i looked at baby ethen, i cry my lungs out, i will miss him when im back to work on mon. i am so in dilemma, a part of me knows that this is the natural thing to do, as in me goin back work, but a part of me feels terrible. actually my mil was supposed to be my babysitter, but due to some unfortunate incident, shes back in ipoh for a month. shell only be back in feb, so in jan am sendin my baby to my hubby's fren's place. her mom is very experience but shes not a babysitter. she only looks after her grand daughter so, its very safe but then again am not sure she can manage 2 babies at one go. i told my hubby he will send baby to babysitter, i cant do it. i will just cry and cry and cry. hubby agrees, so i will only pick baby up. do all mommies out there feels the same? reluctant to go back work? but then again taking care of baby full time also tiring, i know i am dead tired and at times i get angry at ethen coz im tired and hes fussy! not a good combo!
  13. baob and janice, thanks for the input ladies. i am very skeptical as well. i try to avoid but mil and hubby is askin daily when am i goin to take this pills. stress nyer! maybe i take once a mth...sigh!
  14. ladies, im in my second mth of BF, and so far no signs of period yet. was wondering is it safe to take bak foong pills now? is it safe for BF? will the herbs goes to my milk and then to my precious?
  15. islandgal, ur baby chubby! bite him for me pls...heheheh i love his lotus root arms and legs... hugs hugs baby ian...
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