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  1. Thank you everyone, I was away because delivered my girl earlier. After settling down my baby, I'll take action on my doubtful marriage. Being a mother makes one stronger, and I'd got my family's support too.
  2. Thank you to everyone's advice. I'll think carefully before making any decision as this might be the 2nd time I file a divorce (how would people look at me).
  3. Seem like I'm the 'bad' woman… He is also waiting for me to take the move first, so that can put the blame on me. Who can tolerate there's always someone in between your marriage? I cannot keep one eye closed, and I'm exhausted of spying on him. Thanks, 999. Before married, I thought it's only rumors. I have no other people can talk to indeed, so release my feelings here. People might comment that they already warned before I got married; since I'd chosen to jump into the marriage again, so serve me right. MeiTeoh, I do agree with you and that's what I'm considering now. We should never be dependent on another person for own happiness. Being in our conservative cultures, it's not easy to make the decision somehow. I'm late thirty turning forty, am I too old to start afresh?
  4. He already stated that must stay with his parents before married, and he won’t buy a house. All his siblings are not at hometown, so they rely on him to take care of their parents. If I suggest moving out, they will “lecture” me. I don’t understand why they put the responsibility on me. Ya, Yvon, I would like to have a heart-to-heart talk with him, but he seems avoiding and denies everything. How to ensure there’ll be no more infidelity after that? It’s just like a cycle. Bao B, giving him chances and thought children will make him change… Tend to look for “easy” way when feel frustrated sometimes. Both of us aware of those hassle proceedings since we had gone through before, but we can’t just act nothing happened and do nothing because of that, right? In order to keep the family intact, but all of us are unhappy then how? That’s why I feel so dilemma… confused... Maybe I not really want to be with another man, just want to be freed.
  5. I haven't started a new relationship actually, just met someone touches my heart and he's willing to accept everthing of me. "He" makes me feel that I still have other option rather than been trapped in frustrated marriage. I know the baby will be one of the factors when reconsider the relationship. In fact, this is the 2nd marriage for me and my husband. I heard rumours about him before getting married, but I chose not to believe because I never caught it myself. I realize they're true soon after married. Life is not about doing those foolish actions e.g. spying/spot-check my husband, checking his mobile phone, mails and luggage, etc. I want to stop being paranoid, that's not me! I need fresh air in my life.
  6. Perhaps it’s time for us to rethink our relationship- I have met someone better while my husband has someone else on his mind as well. I’m so tired of checking on my husband since married (or before married to be exact) as he always has gf out there. I feel sick of snooping, and prying his personal things. It’s unhealthy, no more trust in this marriage already. I just don’t know how to start the talk; hinted him before but he’s smart and leaves no trace. His family will stand for him too. In fact, I’m unhappy staying with his family all these 3 years, yet need to pretend and serve them “humbly” as being a “good” daughter-in-law. I have to take care of his family and take the blame if not doing well while he flings outside? It’s so tense and I have no one can turn to until “he” walks into my life. However, I’m expecting now. Should I stay married just for the sake of the baby? I think both of us realize that we have to decide whether or not to get a divorce (it is meaningless to continue pretending), just we fear of the potential outcome. On the contrary, I don’t want to contribute to my own unhappiness by not taking action! There are many other roads ahead of me, and it’s time to change for the better.
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