of all the feedback, seems like you the one is different. the 4 age differences are not issue to me as you stated, i always on the side keep her happy, as whatever i can. example - she won't but those tech things. i am the one keep buying her new handphone, her new removable hd/thumdrive - i even made her interested in reading. and she's really poor in english, and now she also buy some those lady fictions to read. which she never has this hobby b4 at all - i always bring her to eating out, movie, strolling somewhere as financial, we not on the down side, the house renovation cost is no issue, we are managing it. in fact we borrowed enough to sustain it about the renovation, my point is, we are on a big project now, we should put efforts to do the new home great. not to behave irrationalely you want this color, this setup, ok. we discuss, then i highlight the issue. "no, i want that lah ... " "fine, we talk with the main con, see what's his input" eventually she has to accept that from the main con, she just can't accept our discussion. the point is, she is stressing me with unnecessary arguements, in fact we should both work together. the issue about the job, is i already pointed to her, we can't made baby if you need to work overseas 1 year or more. and her job is stressful at times she understood it, and resigned it. pick up new job. i knew she not happy with the new job and eventually she quit, and i not knowing until very later, becos i am the only-driver to her. she go work, i fetch her along i don't mad on her about the quiting, becos i did that in past, and know some job really suck what i can't accept is, picking up the old job without discuss with me and she knew very well in the 1st place whe i wanted her to quit as about the baby, the miscarriage happend few years back we did try to continue it, no good, in fact, we did consulted with doc, and perform chk up i have to masterbate to chk my sperm healtiness the result, apart from dna checking, we both healthy to have kid and she want kid too, not only me but when she joined back the old company, didn't she realise that is jeaopidizing the baby plan? i may sound egostic, but i mean it truthfully. from the way i look at this investment, i got a partner behaving irratically, making my life suck, that's why i considering this pull-out plan b4 everything crumbled and broke. if she don't want to do good, why should i follow along? she jump i jump?