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LynxLee

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About LynxLee

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  • Birthday 09/19/1983

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  1. One lesson that I've learnt through the years of me dating is, never expect someone to change. If you weren't married to this person, and having a baby with him; I'm certain anyone would advice you to just leave him. The problem is we can't be ultimately certain on what needs to be done, but what's sure of is that you are very hurt and needs to heal. For him, I suppose it's about time for him to learn his lesson. Without his awareness of what he's done, he won't be able to help yourself. Ultimately though, yeah; I think it's time for you to take care of yourself. Especially since your husband is not doing that at all. Don't help him anymore. I think you've done enough for him.
  2. The above are some key sentences I've extracted from your messages. It looks to me like you're the only one "working" hard enough to fix or sustain this relationship. Few parts of it gives me the feeling that you're not happy with yourself. It just feels and seems rather problematic to your own self esteem. I understand that you're going through hard times and that's why you're down, but frankly I think you'll need to be stronger and come to terms with yourself. This is more important than your husband, his family or that bitch. All those he said as you wrote are all excuses. No doubt they are, the very expression and everything he says are excuses. Meaning, it's just a distraction and illusion for you to be "excuse" him. Seriously, not to disrespect him or you; I think in the end of the day - if the puzzle doesn't fit and he or his family doesn't come to an awareness, the whole puzzle will break because one puzzle is trying to fit in. All these talks about money is ridiculous. Surely being a family is more important? The only problem is there's not enough love, or maybe there used to be love. Perhaps something's missing? The only way to find out is to go through the hard times. These are the hard times. I suggest you be strong, passionfruits. It's not easy and you're not dead yet. Eventually you'll poison yourself with all these thoughts of hatred if this goes on. Please make sure you keep your focus on yourself. Regardless of how others want you to change or your husband tries to affect you. You love him, but please; love yourself more first and foremost. YOU need to be much better. Better, inside. Realistically, talk it through and set a limit. Eventually the dumbest of people knows after the limit, there's no more hope. If it doesn't work out, I suggest you to do something drastic. Leave him. You deserve better if it doesn't work out. If you think you can deal with it then continue on. Limits are meant for our very own judgement. Basically, do what YOU want. It's your life too. The baby is proof miracle happens. Miscarriages could happen, but a newborn has arrived. It's time for a new day. (Quoted: Celine Dion) No offence meant and hope this post helps a little at least.
  3. Erm.. Question.. doesn't it make sense to just close the thread?
  4. Hi "unclewong", I gotta be frank with you. This is my first post in this forum because I feel the need to reply from a guy's perspective. Since you're the "Google Guy", I'd suggest you to Google up pregnancy. After the age of 35, it is really hard to get a baby; let alone after a miscarriage. If she's not attractive to you, and you're the one "making her attractive"; you're missing the point there. Why would you need to make someone attractive in the first place? Go find someone naturally attractive to YOU. House Rennovation. I think this clear that BOTH of you need to work it out if you wanna have a house together. Especially if you two have different opinions on it. Your "future" kids are gonna have much different opinions too. You wanna ignore their opinions next time too? Work. Here's the thing, work's always work. Instead of getting fraustrated of her quit her job, why can't you be more understanding about it and comfort her on losing a job? It ain't easy, you should know. Also she joins in her previous job, don't you think that's the first thing she could think of when losing a job? Need to make money no matter how. Finding jobs ain't easy now. I honestly don't know you; but frankly, your words are very one sided towards yourself. You have be-littled your WIFE! (Not smart, not attractive) You don't support her at all.. I think you give her stress, and vice-versa (same the other way around). After this post itself, I suggest you to LEAVE HER. For HER own good. Frankly, you're not happy with her at all. Mind you, this is a "Malaysian Bride" forum. Mainly, it's all about "Marriage". Not good reading how you're talking bad about your wife in this post all these while. The way you type itself suggest that you are fraustrated and angry and not thinking straight. All about you not happy on her. If you still think SHE NEEDS YOU and not YOU NEED HER; man. Just divorce out and give her whatever you can. You owe her that much. Go find someone else you'd appreciate.. please be AWARE of how you are "treating" her (I mean just by even writing.. like this..). I meant no disrespect, and I don't mean to offend you; but seriously. Either leave this relationship; or you start APPRECIATING her. Then write back in here. I'm sure we would like an update on how you two are going. Thanks for dropping up your feelings. Good thing you wrote how you feel. Hope you've changed the way you see things. If not, seriously hope you two (either together, or seperate) the best! Regards, LynxLee
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