Jump to content

wong111

Members
  • Content Count

    67
  • Joined

  • Last visited

Community Reputation

0 Neutral

About wong111

  • Rank
    Nonchalant Novice
  1. I used to be a tuition teacher before, my student mother is also always lost her temper everytime dealing with kids, she was totally different without the kids around. She have 4 kids around with a maid, her kids is 10, 7, 5 and 2..she going totally nuts when dealing with kids especially with their school works...she will knock their heads with fingers, wip them, shout, yell, bang the door, pinch them..all this sounds like child abuse for me. I don't know why she will like that, I know she love her kids so much but she will totally lost control when dealing with their homeworks. She will teached her kids until midnight when that time she was pregnant around 9 months. She even still called me to did revision with her kids when she in labour room to delivered her last baby. As for a woman to be a total SAHM actually will need a lot of patient and time to adapt. I am a SAHM for almost one year but I still find myself sometimes not adapt to my new job. What I can say as a mother we always too nervous when dealing with kids, for me example, I always think negatively, if I bring my boy out I can't handle him by myself, I can't drive alone with baby in the car seat, was hard to bring baby out especially that time I was exclusively bumping milk and not latch on, etc...so end up I didn't go out with my baby on the first 4 months but once I step out the first step I find out that I just don't over react to it. When ever seeing my boy being naughty I will start to think 'Oh, I must be the same as him when I am in the same age because he has my gen' so I won't mad at him. We did the same thing telling lies, didn't finish our homework sometimes, fighting around with siblings and a lot of silly things. Parents sometimes forget as their are only children. If you think that their are only children why will you mad with a child? Try a short vocation with family member together or may be a one day trip. For me I find telling with HB doesn't work at all. Outing with my boy is always best way for me, park, hypermarket, visiting friends.
  2. My boy hit 1 year old soon...that's also bothering me. But I think may be I will try for other brand like Dutch Lady or Goodday. I read their ingredients before it said all is only fresh milk no others. Should it be ok?? I found this others brand is more cheaper than Farmhouse larr...BTW I can't find Farmhouse in more than 1L. Goodday will have a 2L. And also will prepare formula as well, was thinking of more easy when preparing it when not in home but also scared of the sugar level in the formula... :wacko3:
  3. I had the same feeling like you before when my SIL want to borrow quite amount of money with my HB. SIL didn't knew that HB turn on the cellphone speaker so I heard what ever she said although they are using their dialect, I don't know whether I am lucky that day because HB turn on the speaker or I can totally understand what they are talking about. The convesation is like this: SIL is aking HB to borrow money for her HB to cover up some debt with Ah Long where SIL HB is kaki judi. HB: ok, I will bank in the amount to you tomorrow. SIL: thanks, BTW do you tell this to your wife...(without waiting my HB to answer she quickly add) tak apa lar..although you tell her I don't care cause I am now borrow money from you not from her. After the conversation end I ask my HB didn't you tell her that the money is ours?? HB didn't answer me. From that days on I know what SIL think...respectation is not around anymore. May be for others people will think that no big deal but is really heart broken when you know you will never be a part in HB family...no matter how hard you try especially with those SIL..I must sometime admit women banyak mulut and SIL lagi teruk. I am a SIL myself now since my two brothers are married. I rather keep quiet in a lot of things. I and HB brought our new house 5 years ago, before we move in HB brother already preparing himself to stay with us, BIL just finished Uni and want to get a job in KL. MIL joking one day and said: Hahahha...so HB brother also can help to take care the house sometimes...but never and end up I have to clean his room and toilet. Same thing here if to clean my toilet where HB dirty it I am fine with it but BIL a bit...aiii...but what can I said, nothing because I don't want to bring out issue and later more issue will come. Somemore my HB always on business trip so end up only left me and BIL at home, I will always go back to stay with my parents when HB not around. BIL will also bring friends home to stay for the weekend, friends stocking and sweaty shirts is over my dining table, living room, ironing board...Arghhhhhh..... So BIL go on with his life and we seldom have connection. Is really heart broken also when BIL move in and no one discuss with me about this. They just inform my HB about it. You will never have chance to say anything cause they think you are not a part of them. So now I have my kids I am also seldom let PIL hold my baby, a crack is there.
  4. Wau!!! your son really drink and eat a lot or is mine drink and eat too less?? or because mine is younger than your's?? 7am-7oz milk 10am- wake up 11am- breakfast (cereal with milk) 1pm- nap for 2 hours 3.30pm- 6oz milk 5.30pm- nap for 1 hour 7pm- dinner (porridge) 8.30pm- fruits 10pm- bedtime 10.30pm- dream feed (6oz milk) 1.30am- dream feed (7oz milk) I try to slot in the dream feed to increase his milk intake or else his milk intake is very less because sometime he can't finish his milk. I think some is demand on drinking milk before their nap or bedtime...
  5. Sometimes some harsh words I want to use, is it after fun responsibility no need to take?? Is it really so fun until forget everything?? Hah...I do think those people is they doesn't really like children..as I mentioned before she is that kind of person. When she is happy she will cuddle her son but when mood not in she will lost temper. Example she did told me before that when she is alone with baby at home and baby is crying she will lost temper and will slap baby thighsthighs, when that time baby only 3 or 4 months...baby didn't know anything at all...
  6. I do understanding how frustrated you are with those person..I do facing someone like that...she is my family member. I been clicking on reply for twice (this is second time I click it), I am dilemma whether want to share this here as she is my closest family member. First time happened when she been cheated that the man want to marry her but end up that just a trick to stop her from seperated with him. That's I consider woman should know no matter what we should wait until both are at least register before any action as we are the one who carry a life not man. We should know how to protect ourselves. (As I being keep on mentioned by her that how lucky I am to met my HB and she is not) Second time I think after a year later or half year for that she suddenly told us that she was pregnant again with her new bf, at that time their relationship still not stable yet or can said almost break up. Same like what aishiteru mentioned she blamed the man who never keep his promise and break the rule. ( but I keep on asking so why they not using condom, so expensive or hard to get one?? if so expensive to get one do they ever think if SO LUCKY they make it, raising a kid or abortion is much more expensive than either one) So until the day she get married also she keep on blaming is the man fault not her as she has nothing to do with this... :wacko3: And this is the attitude she keep until now...baby born and financially not stable or I can said so many debt both husband and wife so end up baby now with MIL. Lately I been told that she got pregnant again...Oh my the first baby just 10 months..and another things more shock is she is taking some kind of pills that is totally no pregnant, once stop at least 4 months the gap to be or else baby will either deaf, mental retarded, blind, etc...and she only stop for two weeks...oh my...she keep on giving me excuse that: ya lar..I should be more cautions as after delivery within one year women will be so fertile and she always one time she will kena...( so unfair everytime I listen to this as so many women are not like her or even can't have any baby, for myself I TTC for one year to have my lil one and totally different from her) the next day she told me that her period just suddenly came. Haiii...I really don't know what to say... I know some woman is really have to to this but if you keep on repeat it, it will become a solution everytime the same thing happen. I did have a siblings that deadly wants a kid but she can't have it so she is going for adoption, sometime things just happen in a different way we want it. Is also better if parents are not ready to just choose abortion, if baby born, sooner or later they will feel bored with the baby, so what for a life being born but not being raise properly.
  7. So end up coming back from hometown last week, egg served like in omelette...Oh my...I keep on giving excuse: no lar, mum bb don't seem like egg, later he won't eat it, waste it right...no need 'mar fan', usual food is just nice. MIL showed black face and speak in dialect that I don't understand with my HB. So end up I said ok little bit let him tried, just little bit and I curi curi makan habis. End up tomorrow more coming without my permission and egg is served. I tried to dragged it and said later now bb was full and end up MIL said in their dialect which later HB also black face and told me: mum said if don't want to let bb eat just throw it away. This time I am really in a mad, I tried to explained why can't eat whole egg, anyone TRY to listen to me, everybody in his home wants me to listen to them so anyone try to listen to me?? So what for I go back?? I checked on every food before I gave to my bb, I am more concern than anyone but do anyone tried to at least give me choose what to let my bb eat, NO, THEY DON'T. Somemore I do think are they treating my bb as a toy or what, they all let my boy stand without holding him for more than 10 sec, end up my boy felt down on his butt and knocked his head and cried. That time I am upstair preparing things for night sleeping time and my HB also complained about how am I always holding and sitting beside my boy so PIL didn't dare to come near. They even recorded it and when they see the play back they all laughed... I am now really hate them....include my HB...I really had that feeling of want to just run away with my boy back by bus. Another things, my SIL is in confinement now, more than two weeks, my MIL helped her bb bathed, OH MY, everytime my MIL bath the nb, bb also cried, cried during the bathing time and like scream...and HB said that's normal, to exercise their lung..HAH??? My MIL did that to my bb as well before when confinement too, luckily only 2 days and every feeding time also bb will cry at least 3mins, I am in next room also can hear it clearly...Aikssss....help, I really feel want to go to relief the nb, how poor is him... Why??? How come they all treat bb like that?? I am really confused...I am so sad with all this...for them I am over protecting my lil one...I cried that night when I am back from there thinking back how could I let them with my boy and end up felt down like that.
  8. I am not really sure too but I heard it is due of baby too fast using walker that's lead too baby try to stand and move earlier when their lil feet having long enough to touch the ground so it will later cause this. But it is true or not I am not sure lar...
  9. wong111

    Used Book

    nvm. thanks ya...
  10. I know people always struggle with money, as a mum we do always want more time with bb and you going to have your second one coming. But sometimes I do think in others way as I want to teach myself my son later, may be home learning as that also save some $$ there or make just for two years in kindergarten instead of 3 years. No music lesson as I will teach him by myself, no art lesson as I also can teach it. No so much toys as I can make it myself for him, no so much clothes, a lot of things need to be cut down as $$ need to think twice to spend it coz only HB is making it. It do force me to be more wiser on everything. Self entertainment of course will cut down as well but since I do start to practice it since I start working coz my salary wasn't that much compare with others who work whole day as I am only work for half day. People always said me: aiya your HB got $$ so you no need to work also can lar....my thought is, is just depend how are you going to spend money, can you tahan when others going oversea once a year but I only within Malaysia, others change cars and cellphone and I still the same. That the comparing part where a lot of people can't stand it. May be you can think for only a short break for yourself and going back on work after a year, within that time you have enough time to prepare everything, bb sister for your two little son but if your is hardly for you to let go then you have to think twice lor...I do love my work so much and I had spend 5 years there, my salary is the highest compare to others co worker, after I quit my job until now I still can't let go and not so adapt to be SAHM but I do make it better and better and try to enjoy every moment with my son and as what my father told me I still can find others job later if I want and don't like to stay at home. Same to you. You always can find another job later but I do understand every person is in different situation. You do have your commitment. Take a deep breathe things will soon settle down, think on how cute your 2nd lil one will be. Our sister here will always support you. Gambateh!!
  11. cool it there.. i got the same when Sanju was 9months and not crawling.. everyone from ILs side said he is 'slow' like the father (LOL, hubby didnt mind, but i wonder how he would feel if my family is the one making the comment?) they said he will not crawl but walk straight away.. true enuf he was heavier for his age, but heck.. as long as he is healthy and active, i dont give a damn... thats what i told others.. he is healthy, active and learning other things (while not crawling).. and guess what.. suddenly in the 10th month he started crawling like nothing.. and he walked at 12months.. so there... he wasnt slow after all... just give him some time, all babies have their own pace.. in the meantime we parents can help to encourage them, but pls do not lose hope or get pressured.. this is something we have to remind each other from time to time I really have to rant it here...last Labour Holiday my HB went back hometown as I don't want to face so much on PIL and SILs so my excuse I am so tired this time I skip. My HB return home and giving comments where passed from MIL said: I should give whole egg to bb everyday as that contains lots of nutritions,( I told HB nope as whole egg only when 1 year old but he said mum say can means ok lar...so HB keep on nagging me on giving whole egg for bb) same as you all why bb still can't crawl? why bb still can't sit unsupport (HB don't realize bb can do it already cause he always oversea), HB keep on nagging me EVERY WEEK going back hometown as MIL wants to see bb...so every weekend HB will ask me the same question..harr....really irritating arrr...the more HB ask make me more refuse on it...now only thinking back hometown I already takut...I still can escape from the WHOLE EGG, let say if I really back home town what will happen when the egg is serve, should I give to bb or...? :wacko3:
  12. I did remember when my SIL and brother came back to Malaysia for holiday during last CNY, at that time their first daughter was 13 months, my bro did suggested before MAY BE left his daughter in Malaysia for my mum to take care because is very pricey to for bb sister in his country plus bb sister wouldn't bath bb, not washing milk bottle and my SIL was preagnat again that time...I did remember my mum reaction was of course so excited and prepapring like it really will happen starting with comfirmed words like "hah, bb going to stay with us after holiday". Of course my dad also the same but not so positive with it. I remember I told my mum, how cruel we are if we separate mummy with daughter. When the parents in back home and bb is not around especially usually they are together. How can we do that to the mummy?? Unless the mummy is willing with it. ( I think all mummy will not agree) So end up mum cool down and we just give my SIL and bro back up like if they really need help we always will but for sure they can make it. So now my SIL and bro still living happily with two little daughter. I think to stop what PIL doing most effective way is told them by own son/daughter. If by DIL or SIL sure tak boleh masuk telinga. I think we as parents sure we can take care our lil one but why arr...elderly always think we can't but wasn't they also go through the same before....haiii.... Q: Will you ever think quit job and be a SAHM for sometimes? Sorry if I make you more confuse...
  13. I feel very sad on seeing zeroflower wrote: With pil, it's different because we're always an outsider. Although I know that is true and we can't control it... Ahhh...make me worried...I think I have to consider the gap between first and second one.. Q: don't feel negative about it as you are actually avoid more misunderstanding with IL's ( like what zeroflower said ) I do believe sooner you will be lost patient with your IL's if you let them taking care your son at that time more quarreling will appear...
  14. I totally agree with zeroflower. Same with my PIL as well everytime I bring bb back hometown...PIL and SIL will tak sengaja said: let bb stay here at hometown since mummy so tired taking care you. I reply: Nope, I don't feel tired, I am having fun taking him. Or PIL will said to my HB niece: so you all take care bb now, you for morning, you for afternoon...I really don't know is that just say say or ...?? But I do feel tak sedap hati with it or else my MIL will always questioning me why bb frink milk so slow (that time my bb only 2 months, so what wrong when he enjoy with his milk slowly??), MIL insist that I should bath my bb early in the morning, tak kira dekat siapa punya rumah, tak kira weather although I did explained that is ok for later when we reach home, MIL keep on saying it with black face. From what I think is she try to tell me that she is doing better than me in taking care bbmso I have to fully follow on what she said but NO WAY...so no matter how tired I am I want to keep bb with me. I think all PIL is the same when facing taking care bb, they will slot in when ever they have chance to say helping but I think more to own it. There are some nursery who can take 1 year+ but be careful on how the environment is and how many person working there as there have no enough attention for lil one. Nursery will have a lot of kids that you can't control when pushing and running do happen always.If mixing with so many kids is more easy to get sickness. You can give a try for few days and see but it is not recommended to let bb this young to be in nursery is except recommend by friend or attention is enough for him during nursery time. Better to try with new baby sister at least more safety for his age.
  15. wong111

    Used Book

    Can I know Annabel Karmel's New Complete Baby and Toddler Meal Planner still avaible?
×
×
  • Create New...