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Hydrangeas

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  • Birthday 05/10/1987

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  1. Few years ago, I found out my ex was having an affair with another girl and they were seeing each other at my back for two years. I discovered the truth when I saw a message in his handphone that goes "Thank you for accompanying me the whole of last night when I needed someone the most". I confronted him and we broke up. It was a painful and extremely difficult break-up. Then, I moved on in my life, and two years later, found my significant other. We are already planning for our wedding and marriage. Life is good to me after all. But, until today, many years down the road, although I have completely let go my relationship with my ex years back, I am so grateful that he is out of my mind, life and sight that I will not even bother to know if he is still alive or dead, but I can still remember vividly each and every word that I saw in the message from that girl to my ex. I can still remember the betrayal and all the lies which he made up to cover up the truth from me. I believe women are like that, we will never forget if the person we love, or once used to love betrayed our love to him. What makes me broke-up with him was because firstly, I know even if he turned over a new leaf and remained loyal to me till the end of our lifes, there will be some points of my life that I will remember how he used to lie to me. I cannot accept that. Secondly, once the trust is betrayed, it is very diffcult for me to trust a person anymore. In future, I would not know, when he said something to me or promises me something, can I still believe him? And if there is no longer trust and faith, what's the point of keeping this relationship? Yes, as human beings, we need to be forgiving. But, trust in a relationship is like an eraser. It gets smaller everytime our man makes a mistake. The decision is of course in your own hands because no matter what advises we give you, at the end of the day, only you know what is the best for you and your baby. But, if I were you, I will certainly protect myself and my baby from another heart break, betrayal and disappointments.
  2. It looks like there are many ladies in the same boat. Me too, is one of them. Learning how to get-along with my future in-laws is like a rocket science to me. We are just from entirely different planets. I could not make a single sense out of the things they do and the words that they say. Visits to my future in-laws are not only unhappy sessions but most of the time, they turn out to be painful heartbreaking times. I always either ended up quarelling with my bf everytime after we visited his family or the ride back home behind the wheels would be one which is of pin-drop silence. This is because I have a bf who always defend and speak for his family, no matter they are right or wrong. Sometimes, it is just too much for me.
  3. If I were in your position, I certainly would not tolerate this kind of nonsense. We respect them only if they deserve our respect. Calling own's DIL as stupid and then saying that it was only a joke is certainly unacceptable. There are limitations even to joke. You do not joke without boundaries. Everything must be done in moderation. If I were you, I would not vent out my angers and dissatisfaction to my husband. I would straight talk to the person who is directly involved. If you are just going to keep queit and swallowed down your anger, things will never improve. For me, the best way in maintaining a good relationship with in laws is to keep a distance and to draw a line. And always remember not to get involved in their affairs, be it good or bad. Ignorance is bliss.
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