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Im 25, bf 3 years younger, got a great news, am 10 weeks pregnant. We were in a brief dilemma of getting rid of it, but critical consideration, and how special the baby is when we discovered its presence, and the chemistry with us, we decided to keep. Severe dilemma now, my parents initiate a wedding ceremony, somehow initially my plan was to get ROM ceremony first, until i have my baby delivered only we proceed for the chinese tradition wedding. As we both now resides in Selangor, but I am from Kuching, he is from Limbang, that is another two different cities in Sarawak. Meaning to say, the dowry part my mum insist his parents have to go Kuching, and wedding have to be within december latest else my tummy is obvious. But the gist is, I do not want to rush things, it is very very rush since it is now November, and we have yet gone to pick an appropriate wedding date according to the lunar calendar, needless to say venue and stuffs. Just, if, it is alright according to chinese tradition that if I hold the traditional ceremony with my baby, by then delivered and probably few months old? I am feeling like my mum has not been considerate enough for the peak timing, and since I have always wanted a baby, just because concerning about getting pregnant before married would harm parents' tradition mind n etc that put us in dilemma to get rid of it. We realised, its a family of us, why would we sacrifice for others sake. And now that if we rush the wedding, we would be doing it unwillingly, just to please my mum. Also, short timing, budget constraint, in fact, everything is a rush. Do give me some 2cents about my case. Great appreciate!

I need help.. I actually deposit 50% at france and taipei for a 2999 package for 30poses its a not bad offer... but... just that their dress provided is not the type that I want.. i want a dress that look elegant, sweet and princess type with beads/floral and lace... france and taipei they have vip designer dress for rent from 400-1000++ its just a so so dress.. but if from RM1200-1600 their gown is quite nice.. its so expensive just rent only.. issit really that expensive?? Or im cheated?? I look through internet to buy a dress it only cost 150-250 us dollar its like super nice one.. convert to MYR its like RM450-RM750... and the dress will be mine... At first and when I look through france and taipei their picture attach outside the gown are just fine and quite nice.. however after I placed my deposit few weeks later then only I went to try thier gown.. I feel dissapointed becoz mostly their gown beads are gone and not really in good condition some are grey already maybe their gown are often being use.. :( im so sad.. issit all the bridal like this or? I really need advise.. which place has nice dress for rent and the price are affordable? And what shud I do to france and taipei? Or?? Im confused and sad.. I shudnt be too rush.. my wedding is still far far away next year end... I was too excited that day.. :( im sad now.. please help me..