abnormal of mine

[zeroflower 0]

Sex is indeed important in a MARRIAGE but what's more important is love, trust and commitment. If you really care and love your gf, and u're satisfied with yr sex life with gf, then why are you going for 1hr services??????

Love is not just about giving yr lady the big O, mind you!!!

Looks all lady here. view from guys side.

We are not married yet but some time we come close and enjoy the intimate time. I do L for her at the end of our foreplay. I feel very much satisfied and happy to see my girl gets a big O at end and hug me.

It makes me think that " Yes .. she enjoys the time with me" . Its really important to me. Whoever says Sex is not important in love I think you hiding some thing, its important and you both should have enough of it.

Once a friend of mine took me for 1hr service in Mid valley. I was not surprise to see that there was a big waiting list. We were informed that we need to wait for 1hr40 min for a session. So imagine how many man are having it behind their husband-wife relation. Give priority and importance to sex. make sure you both have it enough.

To all ladies have problem with L, try to overcome it .. give it a try else you will never know the taste of it. There is nothing to lose. you like it then repeat it else just forget it. :P

[zeroflower 0]

I kinda agree that it doesn't fall on one party only. It is the party that chooses to have the affair or one night stand. It could actually be the husband or even the wife. I've heard of wives sharing problems with colleagues then end up sleeping together and the rest is history. But also, there are men who try to gain sympathy from naive women by telling sob stories and condeming their wives, like their wives do not want to have sex etc...

So, I feel that whatever happens in the marriage, both must try to work things out without choosing to turn to other "more tempting" ways. The husband or wife who is infidel should be blamed!

Once a friend of mine took me for 1hr service in Mid valley. I was not surprise to see that there was a big waiting list. We were informed that we need to wait for 1hr40 min for a session. So imagine how many man are having it behind their husband-wife relation. Give priority and importance to sex. make sure you both have it enough.

So did u enjoy the 1hr service at Mid Valley? So ur gf happiness is very important to u that u enjoyed going for 1hr services la? Oh god i am so sick with this kinda man!!!! loverboy i hope u clarify wat u said here... if wat u said is wat i think u have said, u r one sick (*&#(*&$)#*(($&... u know girls, this type of reply is wat we shld harp on... this is far worse than any other pppl's replies... give priority and importance to sex and make sure you both have it enough... wat the $#%%$^%%@#%$ u talking about!!!!

Maybe I'm on a different thought tangent but when a man cheats on a woman, I think both parties are at fault - lack of communication, lack of understanding, lack of compromise, lack of courage to speak about it, etc...

Yes, Loverboy is right. There are MANY married men out there who cheat on their wives for MANY reasons - just drop by Thailand or Batam (or Bintan)...

I'm not condoning this but I'm saying that women too should take some responsibility as well for their hubby's infidelity.

Mabel, I'd have to disagree with you on this one. While cheating usually happens because there is an issue between a couple, be it lack of communication, compromise etc, many a time, ONE party just is an ass. Probably tempted by pleasures of the flesh, coz, say, wifey is getting a little fat, or HB himself seeks excitement. Nothing the wife has done wrong, but HB just is TEMPTED or seeks something new.

I know this for sure. My ex cheated on me. I tried all I can to "revive" our relationship, but he wouldnt try. He slept with someone else to take revenge on me after one of our heated arguments.

So does that mean that I'm to blame? After all I did? Encouraging him(us) to go for counselling, me being more patient, nicer to him. Lets not even talk abt sex. I was the one who had a higher desire than him, asking him for sex always, being adventurous in bed.

Till today, I seriously dont know what "responsibility" I have over his infidelity.

I now just come to terms with the fact that I marriED an @ssh0le.

Thank goodness i walked out of it.

[meiteoh 0]

ILH, if you have tried all you can, then yes, the fault lies with your b****d of a ex-hubby. However, there are women out there who don't try and blame it all on their hubbies even if the guy was being an arse. Sorry if I meant that it sounded like you didn't do enough. I think you did more than what you could do...

[LoverBoy 0]

For those who didnt understand second part of my post.

If you have friends who likes to make stories about their abilities or what they did last weekend you will know what I mean. I dont want to elaborate on this. Sorry.

For gbfleng.

You can try to getinto what your hubby likes to do. He must have a hobby or time pass. if you are able to then I belive there are fair chance of getting close to his heart. This may helo you to have closer relationship. I really wish you get over from the current situation and have a healthy life. Try explaining what bothering you to your husband before taking up any action.

Good Luck !

Those who talk BIG about love. I didnt advise anyone not to love instead just have sex. I only advised that keep in mind the need of your partner. Which is the case here for gbfleng, her husband is unaware about her expectation. He sure loves her but another ingredient for a loving relation is sex, and its missing.

I guess its better say away from the threads/posts as every one here behind proving what is right for her and what is wrong in her views.

[sixling 0]

Hi gfleng, i hv the same problem like u too. I was so sad b4... 10 yrs long run relationship & got marriage last year. since last 2-3yrs HB dun like to ML bcoz of stress. i believe him not that i'm not attractive but his stress made his "didi" can't even stand also sometime when we want to ML. he like to watch movie until late nite too and the reason given is he want to do something he likes to release stress. mayb u need to understand y he doesn't like to ML? izzit bcoz of stress or he really lost the interest? try to understand what is his problem then only find out how can improve it. put aside ur question why he dun like to ML wif u.

Since u gonna married soon, i think ur sex life wif ur HB might improve when u both plan to have baby :) coz my case now we ML more coz wanna have baby. when we do it more often, i found that HB interest to ML is increase also. Try to slowly bring back ur HB interest to ML. And hope ur problem will resolved soon..

[Escudo 0]

I think what LoverBoy suggested is quite true. Try to get together more in his hobby, and usually from there, it will be better chance to get closer and ML afterward.

Loverboy: just a question, if ur gf pleasure herself in front of you too often, will you get bored?

[putraprince 0]

Hi to all ladies, 35 guy chinese guy here, dun mind to service my wife as she will service me back...:) my wife 36, chinese

I am curious. How many chinese/asian guys willing to go down on their partner? I will have to half force half tipu my man to go down on me. :(

[putraprince 0]

Dear Chrisandben

Well, at least your hubby only got PS3, my wife always said i hv 2 mistresses at our hse, one is PS3, one is Xbox...hehehe...so dun be so worry :)

I really think you both need to sit down and have an open table talk. Be honest to each other about ML session. Tell him how you will feel good when he does this or that on you. Maybe you can suggest to ML on the sofa in the living room or in the kitchen. Try a new positions or be naughty like wearing high heels and sey lingerie only or anything that will turns him on. Hope these will sparkle up your love life again. I did that sometimes and it works well but not while he's playing his PS3. So choose the right time and do the right thing. You will eventually get what you want.

[putraprince 0]

Good idea though...hmm...my wife on the other hand will sit on my laps while i am playing my PS3 or Xbox...half an hour later...so so berat liao....what to do....go to bed lah :)

When my hubby plays PS or DOTA till late at nite instead of sleeping beside me and hugging me to sleep, wat i did was...

---> wrote him a letter and put on top of his pillow before i went to sleep... when he came in to sleep, he felt guilty whole nite... he nvr repeat it again...

[yehui 0]

I'm shock to read this topic. All this while I thought women are generally lower in sex drive, as in my newly wed wife. We've been together for 9 years. She is very cool. I normally get once a month, that's corresponding to her hormanol spike. If I'm lucky I get a few more time in a month. I got to try every morning to disturb her. Most of the time she said tired, no mood, sleepy, don't disturb me. Sigh... so have to go toilet. Luckily so far no block toilet and sewage problem.

Always go down on her but she refuse too many times because she said tire if more than 2 O and leg will cramp. She refuse to do bj, and I never force her.

My best time is during her early pregnancy when we got to ML every morning. Must be her hormone remain high during early that time. So I'm very shock to read this topic and the posts here. That shows I've much to learn.

I play games too, PS, PC, Wii, comics, RC helicopter... I think tired and stress are just excuses for guy because guy's brain is make mostly of the alphabet S. I work until very late, lots of work stress. Even after running 5km, I'd not refuse invitation from my wife, never.

[Escudo 0]

yehui: Maybe every guy different leh?? As you can see from here, every gals here are different also.

[gbfleng 0]

yesterday i cried again. 1 month, is 1 month he never ML with me. Last week, i even tried to tempt him, but he seem like no feeling. Until yest i voice out and cried infront of him. Thought he will talk to me nicely, but end up he 'fat pei hei' and shout at me, and said many excuse, like busy la, tired la. I told him im also a human, and i have the feeling. End up he said ," you only know to do this thing, other thing you dono" Speechless....

[meiteoh 0]

gbleng, perhaps there is more to this "no ML" thing. A lot of the time, people are hardly intimate OR overly intimate because they are insecure or worried about things going on in their lives. It is only logical - sex is often a tool that results in pleasure for the person but requires some form of comfort with themselves and their partner (getting naked and so forth). Some people indulge in sex regularly because it is a form of escapism like alcohol and drugs. Others don't indulge in it because they have problems being comfortable with themselves or their environment. Instead of feeling upset and/or fighting about it (worse, blaming yourself for it), it is often best to discover and understand why a partner is just not interested.

Yehui, not every person is the same - I'm sure you realize that by now, because if it were, you wouldn't have this "problem" with your wife. And I have to clarify something - as much as everyone here thinks that all men think about are sex, it is NOT true. It's a stereotype, IMHO...just like the stereotype that women aren't supposed to have high libidos.

[hylim007 0]

majority of you not enough sex. i guess i'm in the husband shoes. my hb always wants to ML to me but i am just too tired to ML. also whenever there is problem i'll lose my mood to ML. now i know how frustrated my hb is after reading the replies from you girls... guess i have to work on it la. else my hb will go for alternatives!

biasalah, usually gals low libido, guys are like harimau!

but ljamie, ur hb sure very frustrated, just like anyone who's not satisified by his/her partner

harimau like us sure suffer when partner are not so keen to ML :(

[Jiun 0]

gbfleng,

I recommend to read on this book, 'the surrendered wife'.

In this book it mentioned that, the author made a huge mistake which is asking n demanding for sex (ML) from her husband. She pin pointed the right thing.. the more u ask/demand, the more they resist the thought of even coming near you, whats more to ML with you. And u will feel down, hurt and embarrassed. By having that bottled up in you, u tend to hold grudges to yr hubby, not as nice anymore... don't do his laundry, don't cooking for him, not asking how was his day at work n etc... all the things that will bring intimacy to yr relationship.

the author advises, in order to regain intimacy, the wife must first of all be 'surrendered'.. u will start asking the definition. well.. im not pro in it as well, just started reading and found some useful tips. i must say, i do see changes in intimacy between me n husband.

ok, come back to yr qs, the author recommended that u never ask, but wait for it to come... be patient, instead asking, try putting it into action, seducing, and making yr self be available. this is indirect way of asking but not chasing him away but also if he doesn't respond, at least you wont be so hurt.

have a try, good luck!

[gbfleng 0]

Jiun, this content sound very meaningful. No harm to give a try. Tahan~~ tahan~~~~

gbfleng,

I recommend to read on this book, 'the surrendered wife'.

In this book it mentioned that, the author made a huge mistake which is asking n demanding for sex (ML) from her husband. She pin pointed the right thing.. the more u ask/demand, the more they resist the thought of even coming near you, whats more to ML with you. And u will feel down, hurt and embarrassed. By having that bottled up in you, u tend to hold grudges to yr hubby, not as nice anymore... don't do his laundry, don't cooking for him, not asking how was his day at work n etc... all the things that will bring intimacy to yr relationship.

the author advises, in order to regain intimacy, the wife must first of all be 'surrendered'.. u will start asking the definition. well.. im not pro in it as well, just started reading and found some useful tips. i must say, i do see changes in intimacy between me n husband.

ok, come back to yr qs, the author recommended that u never ask, but wait for it to come... be patient, instead asking, try putting it into action, seducing, and making yr self be available. this is indirect way of asking but not chasing him away but also if he doesn't respond, at least you wont be so hurt.

have a try, good luck!

[mccj 0]

Yehui, not every person is the same - I'm sure you realize that by now, because if it were, you wouldn't have this "problem" with your wife. And I have to clarify something - as much as everyone here thinks that all men think about are sex, it is NOT true. It's a stereotype, IMHO...just like the stereotype that women aren't supposed to have high libidos.

meiteoh, So nice to have girl like you can understand man that not all about sex in there brain ..

i would said most man with high hormone level fill up there mind with "Sex". :P

[meiteoh 0]

What do you do when you have tempted and "submitted" yourself and yet HB won't bite? I think that's what gbfleng is asking. So what if you never ask and he never gives? Sorry, but I stayed in a relationship like that (where I had to do all the submission) for 1.5 years and it drove me nuts. My ex was the type who believes in the whole "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus" thing, especially the caveman and rubber band theory. He resented me for asking/discovering why he wasn't sexually into me and worse, because of this, he had control over me emotionally, physically and mentally. He reinforced the insecurities and thoughts in me - that 1) I wasn't good enough in bed and 2) there is something wrong with me for having a higher libido.

This is why I really believe in an open discussion about one's sex life with one's partner. There is nothing wrong with asking why or discovering why HB won't even touch you after one month. It's a marriage/relationship we are talking about - you ought to know your partner well enough to know what buttons to push and/or stay away from when talking about it. Personally, two weeks is the most HB and I have ever gone without sex; any longer and something is wrong with the whole marriage. If my HB doesn't want to touch me after two weeks, I actually turn around and ask him why we haven't had sex in a while. No, I don't demand for sex or accuse him of anything - I like to think that I have my own ways of finding out why...but at least we talk about it instead of bottling it up inside or worse, trying to figure out if he'll bite or not. Marriage isn't like fishing for answers.

It's great that the book works for you but IMHO, I think it's incorrect to say that people won't get hurt when their "submissions" are rejected. Your actions - seduction, primping and etc - are another way of demanding.

[SuGAL 0]

I am new here and cant help but read all the posts here. Hmm. When men is not interested to ML, I would think that there are only two reasons:-

1) He can't get it up

2) He is having an affair

For reason 1 above, most of them would not want to admit because it is their "pride". But, it is something that can be changed, there is hope. The little blue pill might come handy at times.

For reason 2 above, the affair could be with:

a) another woman

B) addiction to porn

Basically, he is just not interested at all. Is there hope? Well..for (a), unless you are willing to fight for your man (also depends on how much you love him)...but I do think, that, if it involves the matter of the heart, meaning the affair involves a woman he loves as much as you (or more than you) - this is a tough fight. But if the other woman is a prostitute, then again, there is hope.

If it is an addiction to porn, there is still hope.

Whatever it is, I do think,we can make the difference. We need to observe his behaviour, perhaps check his computer for evidence, etc...and know what to do. I think most men can't resist temptation, but different men will have different fantasies. Try to find out from him. Or watch a porn movie together? No harm trying. And if he is still cold...gosh, he might be gay! Or he really need a blue pill.

Last but not least, if still not working, it is time to seek professional help. S is important in a relationship, like it or not.

My 2 cents...

[Pink Kitty 0]

I play games too, PS, PC, Wii, comics, RC helicopter... I think tired and stress are just excuses for guy because guy's brain is make mostly of the alphabet S. I work until very late, lots of work stress. Even after running 5km, I'd not refuse invitation from my wife, never.

Erm, not pinpoint at you... but I feel that it sounds a bit misleading to the others. I think we shouldn't conclude that "tired and stress are men's excuses"...and the statement that guy's brain is made of alphabet S, to me, is an insult to the guys' wisdom. It sounds like all men in the world are sex maniac that thinks nth about future, career, love but only sex sex and sex.

And I think the problem with our men here is not that they get too tired playing PS3/movie or what-not till they can't have sex with you.

Yes, I understand that everyone works hard, everyone has stress at work, who doesn't? But there are so many different level or definition of 'hard' and 'stress'. How hard is hard how stressful is stressful? Maybe your hard work to me is just peanuts and the stress i suffer which i think it's the max but to you is just sweet as dessert?

There are men who work 'wholeheartedly', e.g. my hubby. He said that only men who has nth better to do or got nth to worry will keep thinking about sex (again, not pinpointing at anyone...). He is very obssessed with his work. He got target to think about, need to handle his staff, his boss, the bigger bosses, the businesss asssociates, the competitors, the customers...and also to care about his family & me. Although the official work hour is till 5.45pm, he works till 9pm. When he's back home he's still thinking about work...if not, he'll be thinking about the household budget. How to save and make more money for our honeymoon/to fulfill our plan, calculating how much debts he need to clear this month, where to celebrate my birthday, what present to buy, how to budget for baby in the future...etc etc.

At work, there are too much work to be occupied with; after work, there are other personal things to think and budget about. As the brain is occupied by other thing most of the time, the S word, of course, would have no chance to slip into the mind during weekdays. Don't blame ur men playing PS after work. It's one of the method that they release stress. Playing game or watching movie is the activity that you don't really need to use ur brain, nor energy, and you can put ur brain to rest and gain some leisure at the same time. So it's popular among men~ haha...

You may ask, why he rather to spend 2hrs playing PS but not even 20 mins on bed with me. Well, playing PS doesn't consume so much energy, no need skill, won't be sweaty, no need mood/feel/ nice atmosphere. Whereas on bed, it needs mood to get the 'equipment' warm up, apparently it kills more brain cell than playing PS 2. :P For example, girl, would u rather to run 30 mins threadmill after work or just chill at some pub/cafe with friends after work?

Of course, the hubby as a guy should play his part too. I know you are busy & tired & no mood on weekdays, but weekends when you're not occupied with work, you should just spare some time, relax ur body and mind and enjoy with ur wife.

Some husband thought that by giving the wife a comfortable home & luxury lifestyle is enough...but to take care the wife's needs and feelings is very important too. A healthy life begins with a healthy heart.

To maintain a healthy marriage, one need to accommodate and compromise another. It has to be from both side. Husbands, please wake up and change urself a little bit.

[ashley_woo 0]

Very well-said Pink Kitty. :)

After work, I go home, I watch TV, dramas, movies, and recently, I'm almost on this forum 24 hours everyday. I'd stay at this forum till late night. And FH will be nagging at me "don't stay up so late... time to sleep". But I never listen, and he always sleeps before me. :P So, naturally, no sex life recently. Hahaha. Well, he may be complaining, if he would, that I do not want to ML with him anymore. Which is not true.

There are so many things to think about. I guess my FH feels it too. Life sometimes isn't as easy as only work and play.

No one is abnormal here.

[hylim007 0]

I play games too, PS, PC, Wii, comics, RC helicopter... I think tired and stress are just excuses for guy because guy's brain is make mostly of the alphabet S. I work until very late, lots of work stress. Even after running 5km, I'd not refuse invitation from my wife, never.

Erm, not pinpoint at you... but I feel that it sounds a bit misleading to the others. I think we shouldn't conclude that "tired and stress are men's excuses"...and the statement that guy's brain is made of alphabet S, to me, is an insult to the guys' wisdom. It sounds like all men in the world are sex maniac that thinks nth about future, career, love but only sex sex and sex.

And I think the problem with our men here is not that they get too tired playing PS3/movie or what-not till they can't have sex with you.

Yes, I understand that everyone works hard, everyone has stress at work, who doesn't? But there are so many different level or definition of 'hard' and 'stress'. How hard is hard how stressful is stressful? Maybe your hard work to me is just peanuts and the stress i suffer which i think it's the max but to you is just sweet as dessert?

There are men who work 'wholeheartedly', e.g. my hubby. He said that only men who has nth better to do or got nth to worry will keep thinking about sex (again, not pinpointing at anyone...). He is very obssessed with his work. He got target to think about, need to handle his staff, his boss, the bigger bosses, the businesss asssociates, the competitors, the customers...and also to care about his family & me. Although the official work hour is till 5.45pm, he works till 9pm. When he's back home he's still thinking about work...if not, he'll be thinking about the household budget. How to save and make more money for our honeymoon/to fulfill our plan, calculating how much debts he need to clear this month, where to celebrate my birthday, what present to buy, how to budget for baby in the future...etc etc.

At work, there are too much work to be occupied with; after work, there are other personal things to think and budget about. As the brain is occupied by other thing most of the time, the S word, of course, would have no chance to slip into the mind during weekdays. Don't blame ur men playing PS after work. It's one of the method that they release stress. Playing game or watching movie is the activity that you don't really need to use ur brain, nor energy, and you can put ur brain to rest and gain some leisure at the same time. So it's popular among men~ haha...

You may ask, why he rather to spend 2hrs playing PS but not even 20 mins on bed with me. Well, playing PS doesn't consume so much energy, no need skill, won't be sweaty, no need mood/feel/ nice atmosphere. Whereas on bed, it needs mood to get the 'equipment' warm up, apparently it kills more brain cell than playing PS 2. :P For example, girl, would u rather to run 30 mins threadmill after work or just chill at some pub/cafe with friends after work?

Of course, the hubby as a guy should play his part too. I know you are busy & tired & no mood on weekdays, but weekends when you're not occupied with work, you should just spare some time, relax ur body and mind and enjoy with ur wife.

Some husband thought that by giving the wife a comfortable home & luxury lifestyle is enough...but to take care the wife's needs and feelings is very important too. A healthy life begins with a healthy heart.

To maintain a healthy marriage, one need to accommodate and compromise another. It has to be from both side. Husbands, please wake up and change urself a little bit.

really make some sense, guess you've a very happy marriage

[Pink Kitty 0]

really make some sense, guess you've a very happy marriage

Well, not to say that I'm not happy now, I'm very happy, but I cried before too...That's why when Chrisandben said that "...sometimes I feel like a cheap whore begging for sex..." I shed tear for her. Cuz I truly understand her feelings.

I think communication is really important. Let him know what you think, and to find out what he thinks too. Then solve out the problem together.

I believe gbfleng and chrisandben's husband do treat them well in some other aspects... so we can't judge a marriage is unhappy or a husband is bad based on the intercourse frequency. Maybe the husband is workaholic, and the reason for him being a workaholic is because he wants to earn more money to give you a better home?

But we must also help him to destress sometimes, let him understand that there're lots more things in life to work for other than work and money.

[meiteoh 0]

If the tables were turned and women were the ones who were not giving out enough of sex, I'd still tell people the same thing - talk talk talk.

Yes, sex may be important at this stage of your married life - it allows you to be intimate and solidifies your connection. BUT sex alone is not the way to be intimate. Talking and learning more about your partner, his thoughts/fears/worries is one of them. When you know, it becomes easier - what buttons to push, what buttons to avoid and so forth.

HB and I had a long discussion about this when we first got married; he too works hard and especially so because I'm not working. Yet we understand that what's more important is the time we spend with each other and how we spend it. To him, work will not keep your house nor your bed warm at night so he doesn't make it a habit, and chooses to only work when he has to and usually it's via shifts. On my part, I understand that sometimes he'll be too tired for sex. Sometimes he'll even be too tired to do the dishes. So I let it go.

Yes, it's about compromise and understanding BUT you have to draw the line somewhere because when only one partner does the compromising, it ceases to be a compromise. It becomes a sacrifice and people tend to get bitter if they have to sacrifice something unwillingly.

[tryingmybest 0]

Dear all,

I come across this topic when i was trolling around the forums... and i been reading from the first page to the final page. It's got all my attention to actually create an account to discuss on this topic. Hope the topic is not left out dated.

I had the same senario as the topic starter, everything is the same except that I am the guy and I am doing the same as how the topic starter HB doing it to her. I been getting real slow into sex with my wife. We been marriage, and been together for long, living under the same roof.

However, sex drive had been pretty low on me. I agree with lot of the gals here said "being busy or tired with work, so feel tired for sex is all excuse". But I am doing it. I tell the exact same excuse. I know is stupid, but I really dont know what to tell anymore. Sure I feel guilty and sad about it, but I do not waht to hurt my wife.

I do love her very much, could gives her what she want (at least at my very best), except for sex. We talk about it, but it just didnt work out. She do all the seducing, but i dont get arouse at all? Sometimes, I ask myself if she was not attractive anymore? BUt then, without wanted to hurt her, I casnt just say she is not attractive, right? SOmetimes, we have sex, but the session doesnt seem to be satisfying, at least to me. I really not sure why is this happening. IS really different before marriage.

I know I had let her down countless of time. I really wish to say sorry to her, i know i had not been a good husband. I try very hard to check what is really happening on me. Sometimes, i feel DIY is much more fun than the real sex. I get more worried over this problem. Am i paranoid or something?

Sure she is not doing much to seduce me, except for getting pretty lingeries, but still, that's doesnt get me all excited. I wonder if she DIY in front of me, would it works, but i dont feel like demanding too much. All along, I feel sex is something natural, and now, is more like forcing out, simply because of me. I feel bad about it.

I recon that the real problem might come close to my wife being not attractive anymore. I know i am being selfish at this, cause i am not as attractive as most hulk. But if the problem is being not attractive, what can i do about it? I want the passion of sex with her, sure i really do, but this matter always put me down. And the worst thing is how to tell her about it? She will get really hurt! She know there is something wrong, when we rarely have sex. She made a lot of indication, but i just ignore or pretend stupid, yeah i am damn stupid and selfish about it. But i just cant help. Not in the mood, and i dont want to cheat making like i am really enjoying it. I want to be honest and pure to her in sex.

I really do what the passion of love and sex back like the old days. But what can I really do about it? Topic starter or any women sharing the opposite same fate, your husband might encounter the same thing as i am, we still love you very much, and at the same time, being over protective so that everything we said and done in sex wont hurt you, we want to be your best bed lover, but when problem arise, not everthing can talk and tell easily. I am not ready to tell how i feel, till i really find some possible solution, and until then, i want to be responsible for making her my wife, and give her all i can.

:(