Hi Jaylow,
Been reading through this thread out of curiosity. Hope that things is getting better for you now.
Just an opinion. Just think of it. If there is a girl that is willing to do so much just to get your husband, i think your husband is such a great guy. So are you sure you wanna let go and let the other girl get to him? I think if you husband is commited to you enough, you should really appreciate it. There is no chance you can control and influence other people thinking to think the same as you. So when you get the closest person to you to believe and be by your side, what could you ask for more? And he is the person that all these problem came from and he is standing by you. So from my opinion, I already think you are the winner. Your in law may be a part of the family, but most important thing is still your husband.
There is always people out there that can capture people's heart and made everyone liked them without people suspecting that there may be reasons behind. But bear in mind, there may not be reasons behind too. Let me share my experience with you too (hope i am not boring you). I think i have said that my gf wanted to leave me in a thread before but we manage to patch things up. At that time she wanted to leave me, we have been together for 7 years, so i am very liked by her family. They adore me so much. So when they received this new that we are breaking up, they are shocked. The parents called me to ask of what happen and i just told them, it is not up to me. As my gf is so firm on wanted to be with that guy, and her family object on it. I stepped up to help her to talked to her family to accept her decision. I am actually really trying to help cause i cannot bear seeing her getting tense everyday and her mother crying. Please believe me when i say i am sincere in doing so. So, sometimes there may have some people that is doing it out of sincere heart and nothing in behind. Maybe she really have deep feelings for the family and wanted to be a part of the family as they have knew each other so long. Frankly speaking, i also have feelings with her family as we were so close to each other. I even promise to visit them if i have the chance to do so. They already accepted me like a son. During that time, i consider myself a son they would have wished for. But lucky for me, things got back in track.
I believe my situation is different from yours. Cause we are on completely different role. But bear in mind, she may have sinister plan in her head, but the family may not have. So i think you should accept it as it was and show some mature thinking. Most of the time, people is always stubborn, always asking why they cannot think from their perspective? But have you think from their perspective before?
Anyway, just a general opinion from me. Hope it helps you to see more 'widely' (kua ka kui - hokkien).......All the best
