Do your babysitters have annual leave?

[jaylow 0]

Hi Mommies,

Just wonder do your babysitters have annual leave?

My cousin just keep me updated that her other friends said their baby sitters have annual leave of one week.

I just wonder who set those trend. Never heard before in Malaysia....

My babysitter every year Chinese New Year she will take around one week off without replacing back.

While engaging with her initially she never mentioned this. only said don't work on public holidays.

Recently she made me mad. She told me she not working on 24th December this month but never said will replace back!!!

I find this attitude is horrible. where got such policy? And when i ask her take care on the days she not working like public holiday or saturday, she charge me rm50 per day. suka suka tell me come early at 5pm pick up my son.

Would appreciate your input.

Merry Christmas and happy new year!

JL

[qarezma 0]

it really depends on your initial agreement and arrangement with your babysitter...

On another side, it is mutual understanding and cooperation..

my BS is like this:

- RM500 monthly

- i dont ask her to replace public hols, or deduct money

- she has taken leave on 2 occasions, for 1.5 weeks, and 3 weeks, in those months, i pay for the number of days she worked for me

- on days i am on long leave for festive hols, i pay her for the number of days she worked for me

- last few weeks hubby has been picking baby abt 5pm instead of the usual 630pm... i guess advantage for her...

so far this arrangement works fine and seems fair for both side. I dont impose anything on her (maybe I should, but so far manage to fill in the urgent leave needs of hers), and she is pretty sweet to me *ttouchwood*.. hope to let it be this way

[CFA 0]

There is no fixed rules but it needs to be clarified up front. Normally, BS will not work on Public Holidays (this also must clarify, State or Federal) and the exception is for CNY (or Hari Raya is you/BS is Muslim).

Most BS these days will take up to 5 days off for CNY (some start of after Yan Yat). Last year, my BS says she wanted to start work at 7 day which me and the mrs had to agree - no choice. This year, she wants to start after the 10-day but 11-day after CNY is a Sunday, so effectively, she is asking for 7 working days off. Me and the mrs again, have no choice but to agree. Your Baby is in her hand, what can u say?

Best to compromise and give and take with the BS. My BS makes poridge for my Baby even on Sunday and Public Holidays

[qarezma 0]

lol true we hv to agree no matter what...

yr BS cook porridge even when she is not working?

There is no fixed rules but it needs to be clarified up front. Normally, BS will not work on Public Holidays (this also must clarify, State or Federal) and the exception is for CNY (or Hari Raya is you/BS is Muslim).

Most BS these days will take up to 5 days off for CNY (some start of after Yan Yat). Last year, my BS says she wanted to start work at 7 day which me and the mrs had to agree - no choice. This year, she wants to start after the 10-day but 11-day after CNY is a Sunday, so effectively, she is asking for 7 working days off. Me and the mrs again, have no choice but to agree. Your Baby is in her hand, what can u say?

Best to compromise and give and take with the BS. My BS makes poridge for my Baby even on Sunday and Public Holidays

[jaylow 0]

it really depends on your initial agreement and arrangement with your babysitter...

On another side, it is mutual understanding and cooperation..

my BS is like this:

- RM500 monthly

- i dont ask her to replace public hols, or deduct money

- she has taken leave on 2 occasions, for 1.5 weeks, and 3 weeks, in those months, i pay for the number of days she worked for me

- on days i am on long leave for festive hols, i pay her for the number of days she worked for me

- last few weeks hubby has been picking baby abt 5pm instead of the usual 630pm... i guess advantage for her...

so far this arrangement works fine and seems fair for both side. I dont impose anything on her (maybe I should, but so far manage to fill in the urgent leave needs of hers), and she is pretty sweet to me *ttouchwood*.. hope to let it be this way

yeah...i agree with you. if the arrangement is like yours i would be happy about it.

initially she never talk about what annual leave when meet up for interview.

but she did mentioned that if want her work on non working days would be rm50 per day. no discount. but she dare ask me take the boy back at 5pm cos she want to go out.

Thanks for sharing dear...

[jaylow 0]

There is no fixed rules but it needs to be clarified up front. Normally, BS will not work on Public Holidays (this also must clarify, State or Federal) and the exception is for CNY (or Hari Raya is you/BS is Muslim).

Most BS these days will take up to 5 days off for CNY (some start of after Yan Yat). Last year, my BS says she wanted to start work at 7 day which me and the mrs had to agree - no choice. This year, she wants to start after the 10-day but 11-day after CNY is a Sunday, so effectively, she is asking for 7 working days off. Me and the mrs again, have no choice but to agree. Your Baby is in her hand, what can u say?

Best to compromise and give and take with the BS. My BS makes poridge for my Baby even on Sunday and Public Holidays

Now i realise my bbsitter is not truthful and won't want to clary when we had interview before we let her childcare our kid.

Never mentioned CNY off how many days. but only when CNY comes then we kena.

Last week on the 24th which is Friday (X Mas Eve day) she supposed to work. but she just tell me don't bring my boy cos she won't be in. Fullstop never mention this is her annual leave or will do replacement. I don't like that.

My previous bb sitter even she take leave just to send her daughter to piano exams, she will refund me money although i say no need. Its the attitude issue I think.

Thanks for enlighten me on the CNY annual leave though.....

[CFA 0]

lol true we hv to agree no matter what...

yr BS cook porridge even when she is not working?

Yes, Sunday / Public Holiday, she will call us to take the porridge cos we live in the same Taman. So when she want off, we give and take. I try to keep my BS happy, a Happy BS = a Happy Baby. We are suppose to pay her on the 7 of every month, but if 7 is a public holiday / Sun, then we pay her early and the BS is happy. I also buy things during Chinese Festive such as Moon Cake, CNY, etc and occasionally, fruits / chocolates.

Jaylow, so far, my BS never take Annual Leave, only on Public Holiday or on Sat, when her children want to take her our for holiday. Before we agreed to give to this BS, we agreede the terms up fromt:

Mon- Fri: from 8 am to 7 pm

Sat: 8am to 1 pm

Sun/State Public Holiday: Off

Like I say, its a give and take, cos we normally send at about 8.30 am, after making sure that the Baby had his morning feed and poo-poo, so when we send, the BS is not kelam kabut and whenever we can, we pick up early but sometimes, later. But once, she had to take 2-days EL due to family issues and she offered to 'replace / pay back' but I said no need to be so calculative.

Where do you stay, is it difficult to look for BS at your place? A relation with BS is just like with IL, a lot of give and take - cos your baby is in their hand, you must feel safe doing so. But if you are always doing the giving, its not so good. It seems that your BS is doing a lot of 'taking'. Have you tried to 'buy her heart' with some presents?

How old is your Baby? When Baby is below 6 mths, its very easy to change BS. After they are 6 mths to about 2-years, babies get separation anxiety and would want some familar care taker. Changing BS during this period may be difficult but after they can walk, talk and reason, its not too bad.

[qarezma 0]

lol true we hv to agree no matter what...

yr BS cook porridge even when she is not working?

Yes, Sunday / Public Holiday, she will call us to take the porridge cos we live in the same Taman. So when she want off, we give and take. I try to keep my BS happy, a Happy BS = a Happy Baby. We are suppose to pay her on the 7 of every month, but if 7 is a public holiday / Sun, then we pay her early and the BS is happy. I also buy things during Chinese Festive such as Moon Cake, CNY, etc and occasionally, fruits / chocolates.

Jaylow, so far, my BS never take Annual Leave, only on Public Holiday or on Sat, when her children want to take her our for holiday. Before we agreed to give to this BS, we agreede the terms up fromt:

Mon- Fri: from 8 am to 7 pm

Sat: 8am to 1 pm

Sun/State Public Holiday: Off

Like I say, its a give and take, cos we normally send at about 8.30 am, after making sure that the Baby had his morning feed and poo-poo, so when we send, the BS is not kelam kabut and whenever we can, we pick up early but sometimes, later. But once, she had to take 2-days EL due to family issues and she offered to 'replace / pay back' but I said no need to be so calculative.

Where do you stay, is it difficult to look for BS at your place? A relation with BS is just like with IL, a lot of give and take - cos your baby is in their hand, you must feel safe doing so. But if you are always doing the giving, its not so good. It seems that your BS is doing a lot of 'taking'. Have you tried to 'buy her heart' with some presents?

How old is your Baby? When Baby is below 6 mths, its very easy to change BS. After they are 6 mths to about 2-years, babies get separation anxiety and would want some familar care taker. Changing BS during this period may be difficult but after they can walk, talk and reason, its not too bad.

really agree with u.. happy BS = happy and safe baby

i dont want my BS to feel under-compensated, thats why always agree to most of her needs

[zeroflower 0]

MY BS doesnt have any annual leave but so far this is the practice:

-RM700/mth. Without any cooking. i cook and bring to her hse.

- days : Mon - Fri only.

-Time is flexible. Some days I bring my girl to her hse at 8.30, 10, 11 or sometimes even 12 (cos my working hours is not fixed). I fetch my girl at or before 6.30

-Public holidays. Follow KL cos I'm working in KL.

- i take quite a lot of leave and on those days, she doesnt need to care for my girl but it's my choice..so it's ok with me :)

-She takes abt 1-2 days off every month for her hospital check ups. No replacement.

- CNY - I'm normally off a week so gets a week too. Like Christmas I was off 2 days, she too gets it.

No replacement. payment the same = 700.

I'm not rich but my hb ask me not to be so "kira" cos if we are, it will affect her attitude toward my girl. I know she's supposed to be professional but since my lil one is in her care, i guess better be safe than sorry. I remember that when i discussed with her initally, it was 650 without cooking. once my daughter takes solid, it will be 700 for her to cook n foodstuff but since i decided to cook, she didnt mention anything. So, i guess i'm just paying her extra to feed my daughter?? But nevermind la, bottom line is, take care of my kiddo well n keep her safe. Pay a lil extra for that peace of mind...

[janicelly 0]

My babysitter don't have annual leave too & our arrangement is like this :-

- RM700/mth, no cooking as I will cook & send food over. She is willing to cook, just add RM100 but I prefer to cook myself.

- Time is 8.00am til 7.00pm (Mon - Fri) but sometimes we'll send late & early pick up.

- After 7.00pm, we are supposed to pay her OT by the hour but we just pay her 1 lumpsum for it. We seldom let her OT, few months once when hubby is stuck in meetings etc. She's willing to take care on Sats too & will calculate by OT hours but so far I've never send her over on Sats.

- Public holidays follow Selangor.

- CNY, I'm usually off for a week so nanny will be off too. I've never deducted any money from her, even when I go holiday & brought my kid along (even if it's for a week). Will give her angpow/gift during CNY too. I will buy things for her & her family to eat once a while too.

I don't really wanna "kira" with her too cos I am very happy with her service & she treats my girl very well.

[linlin 0]

My babysitter will go for holiday 3 times a year (overseas trips) and she has informed us about this before we choose her as our babysitter. In total she will have annual leave of around 3 weeks excluding sunday and public holidays. We did not deduct any baby sitting fee from her even when she goes on leave.

In return, she helps me to take gal of my girl every saturday (until 3pm) and daily until 7:30 to 8pm without additional charge. When I am not free at night, my girl will sleep over at her place with no extra charge as well.

I am paying her RM650 a month. RM600 for baby sitting RM50 for food.

[sumsum2202 0]

After read all the BS's arrangement story. I also would like to share mine one.

I sent my baby when he was 6 weeks. BS treat him very well. Always buy shirts and pants for my baby. When my baby was 7 months, she told me that she wantted to go to UK one month to visit her daughter and let my baby take care by her sister. I have no choice and agreed. Her sister just stay beside her and i am okay with her. She aslo treat my baby good.

after came back from UK, she continue take care of my baby. She also bought lots of clothes for my son when returned from UK. Last week, she also gave my son's Xmas present. I was suprised.

- I pay RM700 (even with solif food now and she did not ask for more)

- Mon to Friday from 7.30pm to 7.30pm (sometimes late due to workload)

- off by follow public holiday.

- bought mooncake for her before that.

I agree that we should not calculative too much. Like last week, me and my family went to Singapore for holiday and she can rest for 2 days. in total, she only take care of my baby 3 days this week (tomorrow is public holiday). I always pay her on time and she seem happy about this. instead, I pay in advance to her. when i sent my son to her when he was 6 weeks, i immediately paid her RM700 for that month. I also trying and want to keep the good relationship with her and her family.

I remember while my son 6 months and need to take injection, i requested her to follow me to clinic because my HB got shicken box and went back to hometown. I was alone took care my baby for 2 weeks. She said okay and that day was saturday too.

[zeroflower 0]

Actually from all the stories we hear, if both parties (baby's parents and bbsitter) are tolerant and can give and take, it would be good. Of course, the priority is we can accept each other's ways/terms etc.

Bbsitter and parents must be honest with each other. My previous bbsitter was nice n kind to my baby but she was not truthful. She left my baby at home in the court when she went out for a while. She didnt inform me. I found out when i went to her hse n she wasnt in n my baby was crying. This i cannot accept.

My current bbsitter will also buy clothes/toys and vice versa. I buy her food almost once a week, cakes, dessert etc. Chinese NEw year i give a big bag of food stuff abt rm80 (i budget) and she'll give my girl ang pow. Sometimes she will let me drink tong sui if she boils or gime food she cooks. I gave her mooncake and tong yuen when i make.. Basically just treat her like a relative.

So just saying that if can accept the way your bbsitter works, then it's okay to pay a little bit more if you feel it's worth it.

[jaylow 0]

Jaylow, so far, my BS never take Annual Leave, only on Public Holiday or on Sat, when her children want to take her our for holiday. Before we agreed to give to this BS, we agreede the terms up fromt:

Mon- Fri: from 8 am to 7 pm

Sat: 8am to 1 pm

Sun/State Public Holiday: Off

Like I say, its a give and take, cos we normally send at about 8.30 am, after making sure that the Baby had his morning feed and poo-poo, so when we send, the BS is not kelam kabut and whenever we can, we pick up early but sometimes, later. But once, she had to take 2-days EL due to family issues and she offered to 'replace / pay back' but I said no need to be so calculative.

Where do you stay, is it difficult to look for BS at your place? A relation with BS is just like with IL, a lot of give and take - cos your baby is in their hand, you must feel safe doing so. But if you are always doing the giving, its not so good. It seems that your BS is doing a lot of 'taking'. Have you tried to 'buy her heart' with some presents?

How old is your Baby? When Baby is below 6 mths, its very easy to change BS. After they are 6 mths to about 2-years, babies get separation anxiety and would want some familar care taker. Changing BS during this period may be difficult but after they can walk, talk and reason, its not too bad.

[ice_anise 0]

There is no fixed rules but it needs to be clarified up front. Normally, BS will not work on Public Holidays (this also must clarify, State or Federal) and the exception is for CNY (or Hari Raya is you/BS is Muslim).

Most BS these days will take up to 5 days off for CNY (some start of after Yan Yat). Last year, my BS says she wanted to start work at 7 day which me and the mrs had to agree - no choice. This year, she wants to start after the 10-day but 11-day after CNY is a Sunday, so effectively, she is asking for 7 working days off. Me and the mrs again, have no choice but to agree. Your Baby is in her hand, what can u say?

Best to compromise and give and take with the BS. My BS makes poridge for my Baby even on Sunday and Public Holidays

Now i realise my bbsitter is not truthful and won't want to clary when we had interview before we let her childcare our kid.

Never mentioned CNY off how many days. but only when CNY comes then we kena.

Last week on the 24th which is Friday (X Mas Eve day) she supposed to work. but she just tell me don't bring my boy cos she won't be in. Fullstop never mention this is her annual leave or will do replacement. I don't like that.

My previous bb sitter even she take leave just to send her daughter to piano exams, she will refund me money although i say no need. Its the attitude issue I think.

Thanks for enlighten me on the CNY annual leave though.....

my mom is a babysitter. she never go holiday while babysitting, so, most of the time, parents are very comfortable with her. normally it's a 5 1/2 day work for her. the 1/2 day is saturday but her mommy always come and pick her up after 3pm...mom charge RM20 if want to baby sit on sunday. The only request is to have holidays on CNY, cos she needs to cook...approximately 2 days before CNY but will get back to work once the mommy start working. different babysitter got different request....

[qarezma 0]

jaylow, did your BS inform of the other high-paying mother? have you been able to check the fact? is she fishing for extra money or what?

anyways your BS does not sound very sincere at heart. Mother-BS relationship is 2-way, one-sided wont work. I hope u find a better and more sincere BS for your son

[jaylow 0]

MY BS doesnt have any annual leave but so far this is the practice:

-RM700/mth. Without any cooking. i cook and bring to her hse.

- days : Mon - Fri only.

-Time is flexible. Some days I bring my girl to her hse at 8.30, 10, 11 or sometimes even 12 (cos my working hours is not fixed). I fetch my girl at or before 6.30

-Public holidays. Follow KL cos I'm working in KL.

- i take quite a lot of leave and on those days, she doesnt need to care for my girl but it's my choice..so it's ok with me :)

-She takes abt 1-2 days off every month for her hospital check ups. No replacement.

- CNY - I'm normally off a week so gets a week too. Like Christmas I was off 2 days, she too gets it.

No replacement. payment the same = 700.

I'm not rich but my hb ask me not to be so "kira" cos if we are, it will affect her attitude toward my girl. I know she's supposed to be professional but since my lil one is in her care, i guess better be safe than sorry. I remember that when i discussed with her initally, it was 650 without cooking. once my daughter takes solid, it will be 700 for her to cook n foodstuff but since i decided to cook, she didnt mention anything. So, i guess i'm just paying her extra to feed my daughter?? But nevermind la, bottom line is, take care of my kiddo well n keep her safe. Pay a lil extra for that peace of mind...

Yeah, i would agree with you. i will also do same as you do if I were you.

My bb sitter she very hard up for money. I also close one eye. let her earn extra for public holiday and on sat...rm50 each day.

so each month i let her earn rm 200 on 4 sat..if 5 sat..rm250. and if public holiday ...more...

so u can imagine i let her earn so much.

I usually take my son to her only at 11am and before 7pm.

so you think i kira with her or not?

cos i ask her want to take care or not few days in advance? since she not goign anywhere..she said can, take your son here.

i don't request her to help me to do it....

Well, i think also its genetic from per parents. her parents work together as contractors. i also let them do business by doing cement work in my house. very bad job done i also didn't complain.

i just ask her dad" uncle, the floor tiles can create puddles when raining. its that ok?" he said he won't pay responsibility as did already what can he do?

I mean when he put on cement before tiling my hb already sound to him got one area will create puddle. mean flooring not level enough. but he just ignored. now after that he said not responsible. so we realise the family culture is always they win and pple always lose.

also he quoted us hacking price which his much higher. but his worker didn't do hacking before place new tiles. just put on top. then he still insist he charge us hacking price by square feet. have you met such contractor? he will never deduct out even we ask him to.

just because our son is in his daughter's hand, we have to swallow our unhappiness.

and also few weeks later...the concrete and tiles on top he did at most area sound hollow already and some area tiles came off.

really we very lenient to them this is what we get....haiz......

its ok. we will drop our bb sitter after cny. cos too late to give notice. the more we think about it the more upset we are...

thanks for sharing ya.

Happy new year.

so i feel she want to earn yet want to win...ask me pick up 5pm....i also keep quiet

[jaylow 0]

My babysitter will go for holiday 3 times a year (overseas trips) and she has informed us about this before we choose her as our babysitter. In total she will have annual leave of around 3 weeks excluding sunday and public holidays. We did not deduct any baby sitting fee from her even when she goes on leave.

In return, she helps me to take gal of my girl every saturday (until 3pm) and daily until 7:30 to 8pm without additional charge. When I am not free at night, my girl will sleep over at her place with no extra charge as well.

I am paying her RM650 a month. RM600 for baby sitting RM50 for food.

yeah..this is sort of is called replacement to me

its good.

but my bb sitter wont' do it. anything extra she will charge. and she take take i will lose..thats all.

[jaylow 0]

After read all the BS's arrangement story. I also would like to share mine one.

I sent my baby when he was 6 weeks. BS treat him very well. Always buy shirts and pants for my baby. When my baby was 7 months, she told me that she wantted to go to UK one month to visit her daughter and let my baby take care by her sister. I have no choice and agreed. Her sister just stay beside her and i am okay with her. She aslo treat my baby good.

after came back from UK, she continue take care of my baby. She also bought lots of clothes for my son when returned from UK. Last week, she also gave my son's Xmas present. I was suprised.

- I pay RM700 (even with solif food now and she did not ask for more)

- Mon to Friday from 7.30pm to 7.30pm (sometimes late due to workload)

- off by follow public holiday.

- bought mooncake for her before that.

I agree that we should not calculative too much. Like last week, me and my family went to Singapore for holiday and she can rest for 2 days. in total, she only take care of my baby 3 days this week (tomorrow is public holiday). I always pay her on time and she seem happy about this. instead, I pay in advance to her. when i sent my son to her when he was 6 weeks, i immediately paid her RM700 for that month. I also trying and want to keep the good relationship with her and her family.

I remember while my son 6 months and need to take injection, i requested her to follow me to clinic because my HB got shicken box and went back to hometown. I was alone took care my baby for 2 weeks. She said okay and that day was saturday too.

to me i won't request or hope she will buy anything for my son.

relationship wise we always buy food and buy dinner for them.

she stay in big family. parents stay in. relatives also stay in.

we all buy also include those pple.

then i won;t know what is good relationship with them

i will chat iwth her all time...seems good

but when it comes to money...she got one tahit lalat on ther face. my mom met her once also said give her feeling bb istter is

money will go in but never come out type". ha ha ha

anyway thanks for sharing.

i realize how come the fees still aroun rm600?

i heard subang and puchong now around 800 for a start d.

day and night is 1500

to all : kindly state your area ya. My bb sitter is puchong area.

[zeroflower 0]

Oh..that's bad jaylow. That's why i mentioned that BOTH must be reasonable. If only one party, then u must think and consider carefull. Weigh the pros and cons and if u really cant stand, no point forcing yourself. I dont think ur being too kira with her from what u say. Hope u'll be able to solve this issue.

Another word of advice, NEVER ask someone u know to do your construction work etc. Kena before. Ask a relative to do and did a horrible job but cant complain cos i's a close relative. BEst is if u dont know the person. Then can nego properly.

Happy new year to u too...take it easy yeah..

[CFA 0]

Jay, if you drop your current BS, make sure you secure a replacement BS first and perhaps you should let your Baby to bond withthe the new BS before dropping your current BS. You can lie to the current BS, say your relative come for one week, so she can rest. If the new BSa and your baby can bond, then u drop the current BS

[jaylow 0]

Jay, if you drop your current BS, make sure you secure a replacement BS first and perhaps you should let your Baby to bond withthe the new BS before dropping your current BS. You can lie to the current BS, say your relative come for one week, so she can rest. If the new BSa and your baby can bond, then u drop the current BS

CFA, thanks for your advice.

Err..my next bb sitter will be MYSELF

will also put him in some kindy classes..so that he got some days mix and play with little friends.

My son at this age i think i can put him in day care and learn extra things under the kindy teachers care.

He is 3...going to be 3 and halfby Mar 2011

[jaylow 0]

Oh..that's bad jaylow. That's why i mentioned that BOTH must be reasonable. If only one party, then u must think and consider carefull. Weigh the pros and cons and if u really cant stand, no point forcing yourself. I dont think ur being too kira with her from what u say. Hope u'll be able to solve this issue.

Another word of advice, NEVER ask someone u know to do your construction work etc. Kena before. Ask a relative to do and did a horrible job but cant complain cos i's a close relative. BEst is if u dont know the person. Then can nego properly.

Happy new year to u too...take it easy yeah..

zeroflower,

yeah..u are rite. its a great lesson learnt! never also use bb sitter's hb or relative as contractor!!!

YUp, will pray for God to give me strength to go on with son without bb sitter....haiz...

thanks for your sharing and concern

[blue_pierre 0]

My BS does not have annual leave either and our arrangement is :-

- RM700/month (she charges RM670 which includes food, but I am preparing my boy's food myself, including snacks, so I'm literally paying addtional RM100 for his additional effort to feed, I suppose, but she didn't ask for that though). I cooked the food myself initially and brought them over in a thermos for the first 2 months. Thereafter, she offered to cook the food for us as she has a spare mini slow cooker and that will just for my boy's food. So that saves a lot of my times and effort too. I'm so grateful of her offer. :-))

- She takes a week off on CNY, which is ok for us cos we normally would take at least a week of too.

- Follows KL holidays as both myself and HB work in KL

- We normally give the salary to her few days before month end

- We do give her presents during those festivals, eg: mooncake festival, CNY, dumpling festival, etc..

- I do buy her/family foods on-and-off, and share my baking/cooking with her too, and she does shares her cooking to me at times too, eg: kuih etc.

Generally, we dont kira with her at all as we are pretty happy with her service and she treats my boy good too, ie: buy him presents, toys etc sometimes... so we normally accommodate to her requests (not that she always have requests la..).. Not a big deal la.

[jaylow 0]

My BS does not have annual leave either and our arrangement is :-

- RM700/month (she charges RM670 which includes food, but I am preparing my boy's food myself, including snacks, so I'm literally paying addtional RM100 for his additional effort to feed, I suppose, but she didn't ask for that though). I cooked the food myself initially and brought them over in a thermos for the first 2 months. Thereafter, she offered to cook the food for us as she has a spare mini slow cooker and that will just for my boy's food. So that saves a lot of my times and effort too. I'm so grateful of her offer. :-))

- She takes a week off on CNY, which is ok for us cos we normally would take at least a week of too.

- Follows KL holidays as both myself and HB work in KL

- We normally give the salary to her few days before month end

- We do give her presents during those festivals, eg: mooncake festival, CNY, dumpling festival, etc..

- I do buy her/family foods on-and-off, and share my baking/cooking with her too, and she does shares her cooking to me at times too, eg: kuih etc.

Generally, we dont kira with her at all as we are pretty happy with her service and she treats my boy good too, ie: buy him presents, toys etc sometimes... so we normally accommodate to her requests (not that she always have requests la..).. Not a big deal la.

ya, if your bb sitter is good then i also agree you should do all the above. but mine she took one newborn in. can't handle my son. i felt she don't take care of my son already. since the bb come in, my son always come home with dirty and long fingernails and ear wax is always a lot. Before that i won't have that kind of problem.

then she can't handle she now feed my son dinner at 4pm+. This is crazy...too early.

so now how can she demand so many things from me rite? she always on the winning side.

well, she kira too much ...so i also won't be kind to her...

last time she kira i don't mind because she still can handle my son well. now she too greedy take in the newborn.

now she is handling 4 alone. i will take my son out.

well, u are lucky......