bewwytoria 0 Report post Posted March 9, 2012 dear all pretty ladies, i'm wondering if there's such a thing in malaysia or the chinese custom regarding the color(s) that the mother-in-law and sister-in-law can wear? i understand in the western culture, it is deemed rude for anyone else to wear white/ivory to a wedding. what more if it's the MIL & SIL... why i'm asking is because FH's younger sister is an attention seeker... she's tall and pretty and bla bla bla so i'm sure she'd be wearing something revealing or eye-catching. as for the colors, is it "permissible" for her to wear the same as my wedding gown/evening dress? what about black? my wedding is in september but i have not finalised the design and color of my evening dress so i can't tell them what i'm going to wear. i plan to have simple designs for both my gown and dress so that i could wear them again in the future so they will not be too elaborate (i'm custom-making them). i'm just worried she will get overboard and steal my moment =( or am i just sweating the small stuff? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
beautifulgown 0 Report post Posted March 12, 2012 Do you have any color theme for your wedding? If yes, let her wear on the color. Actually, it is rude to wear white/ivory to people's wedding, tak kan you wanna jadi the bride too? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
bewwytoria 0 Report post Posted March 12, 2012 Do you have any color theme for your wedding? If yes, let her wear on the color. Actually, it is rude to wear white/ivory to people's wedding, tak kan you wanna jadi the bride too? as of now i don't really have a theme. but i'm planning to make a fuchsia pink dress. will it be a good idea to tell her that in hope that she will "sing mook"? later she "siew hei" pulak cos she's quite a spoilt child and has always had her way. i've asked FH to let her know, don't know if he has conveyed the message. or should i just let her wear whatever she likes, just let it be even if it's too over so people will think she's desperate to be noticed? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
DANIEL LEE 0 Report post Posted March 12, 2012 There will always be 'attention whores' and 'camera whores' in many weddings. Let them be. Just be your beautiful self as the Bride. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skye 0 Report post Posted March 12, 2012 like for my wedding, what i did is told the bridesmaid what kind to wear ie : cheong sam / oriental in the morning tea ceremony and no red as i will be wearing red Qua but of course there is some chi mui who wear red (slight diff shades). at night since nothing much to do just urshering so they are all allowed to wear whatever they want. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
bewwytoria 0 Report post Posted March 12, 2012 i won't be wearing a Qua. then i think i'll just casually or try to jokingly tell her that's MY color - don't copycat! thanks all for the reassurance :) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
beautifulgown 0 Report post Posted March 12, 2012 I think is okie to let her knows your theme color and see what she will do. Well, I'm sure the photographer and videographer will know what to do, you are still the main focus and she .. well .. just an extra flower vase to 'decorate' XD haahah yes I'm bad =P Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
bewwytoria 0 Report post Posted March 13, 2012 hahahahaha. "flower vase"... i like that term! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Fredia Cao 0 Report post Posted March 13, 2012 I think the dress color of the mother-in-law and sister-in-law don't be similiar to the bride's. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
beautifulgown 0 Report post Posted March 14, 2012 hahaha I nvm there's a flower vase in my wedding, well .. it serves as decoration ba .. but the main focus still the bride la =P let me see .. do I have any flower vase in my weddig .. hmmm .. yes, there's one =P young and pretty! hahaha but I'm the 'queen' of the day, I'm still the main focus! =D Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sassy_chiq 0 Report post Posted March 16, 2012 Hmm in this case, maybe you should tell them to wear dark purple or dark pink...say that's your theme for the dinner and then u start decorating everything in dark purple/ pink just to make it less obvious. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
igotaring 0 Report post Posted March 20, 2012 Delicate situation since she's your SIL. You don't want to get into the in laws bad books. Anyway the bride will always be the focus, with your beautiful gown, hair & makeup, don't worry lah. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
bewwytoria 0 Report post Posted March 20, 2012 hmm yeah. think i'll just let them wear what they want. shouldn't care too much about that and just enjoy my day. *happy thoughts* ^_^ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
roseisrose 0 Report post Posted March 27, 2012 dear all pretty ladies, i'm wondering if there's such a thing in malaysia or the chinese custom regarding the color(s) that the mother-in-law and sister-in-law can wear? i understand in the western culture, it is deemed rude for anyone else to wear white/ivory to a wedding. what more if it's the MIL & SIL... why i'm asking is because FH's younger sister is an attention seeker... she's tall and pretty and bla bla bla so i'm sure she'd be wearing something revealing or eye-catching. as for the colors, is it "permissible" for her to wear the same as my wedding gown/evening dress? what about black? my wedding is in september but i have not finalised the design and color of my evening dress so i can't tell them what i'm going to wear. i plan to have simple designs for both my gown and dress so that i could wear them again in the future so they will not be too elaborate (i'm custom-making them). i'm just worried she will get overboard and steal my moment =( or am i just sweating the small stuff? i have the same situation - but in the form of the FH's younger brother's gf - ;). lucky thing that she's not as good looking as she thinks she is lar (feel quite bad to say this :P) i've seen her wear somthing to somone's wedding, looking like she's the bride more than the bride herself - find that quite rude too.... Do you have any color theme for your wedding? If yes, let her wear on the color. Actually, it is rude to wear white/ivory to people's wedding, tak kan you wanna jadi the bride too? yes, it is rude and unspoken rule that no one but the bride should wear ivory or white or off white There will always be 'attention whores' and 'camera whores' in many weddings. Let them be. Just be your beautiful self as the Bride. thats also quite true - theres so many of them - u cant take them all down ! hahahaha I think is okie to let her knows your theme color and see what she will do. Well, I'm sure the photographer and videographer will know what to do, you are still the main focus and she .. well .. just an extra flower vase to 'decorate' XD haahah yes I'm bad =P yes - my photographer is very professional and i know he will not focus on anyone else but us and the close family ! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
beautifulgown 0 Report post Posted March 27, 2012 Saw your signature line, your photographer is Weng Yap. Yes, your photographer will know what to do and of course you are the bride, the queen of the day, who else he needs to focus to!? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
roseisrose 0 Report post Posted March 28, 2012 Hi BG, did u use Weng too? ;) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
beautifulgown 0 Report post Posted March 28, 2012 No, I'm not =) I'm from Kuching. My PG is Shen Yeo. I saw some works from Weng, nice =) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
roseisrose 0 Report post Posted November 15, 2012 dear all pretty ladies, i'm wondering if there's such a thing in malaysia or the chinese custom regarding the color(s) that the mother-in-law and sister-in-law can wear? i understand in the western culture, it is deemed rude for anyone else to wear white/ivory to a wedding. what more if it's the MIL & SIL... why i'm asking is because FH's younger sister is an attention seeker... she's tall and pretty and bla bla bla so i'm sure she'd be wearing something revealing or eye-catching. as for the colors, is it "permissible" for her to wear the same as my wedding gown/evening dress? what about black? my wedding is in september but i have not finalised the design and color of my evening dress so i can't tell them what i'm going to wear. i plan to have simple designs for both my gown and dress so that i could wear them again in the future so they will not be too elaborate (i'm custom-making them). i'm just worried she will get overboard and steal my moment =( or am i just sweating the small stuff? i have the same situation - but in the form of the FH's younger brother's gf - ;). lucky thing that she's not as good looking as she thinks she is lar (feel quite bad to say this :P) i've seen her wear somthing to somone's wedding, looking like she's the bride more than the bride herself - find that quite rude too.... Do you have any color theme for your wedding? If yes, let her wear on the color. Actually, it is rude to wear white/ivory to people's wedding, tak kan you wanna jadi the bride too? yes, it is rude and unspoken rule that no one but the bride should wear ivory or white or off white There will always be 'attention whores' and 'camera whores' in many weddings. Let them be. Just be your beautiful self as the Bride. thats also quite true - theres so many of them - u cant take them all down ! hahahaha I think is okie to let her knows your theme color and see what she will do. Well, I'm sure the photographer and videographer will know what to do, you are still the main focus and she .. well .. just an extra flower vase to 'decorate' XD haahah yes I'm bad =P yes - my photographer is very professional and i know he will not focus on anyone else but us and the close family ! hi all, just wanna update u all. i had my private ROM last weekend. guess what she wore? my god.....my ROm was in the morning and she wore a skimpy short one shoulder dress which is white in colour......all my friends were shocked.......they didn't know such ppl existed.. the dress is this short - http://images.werdyo.com/2011/08/11b/monique-coleman/monique-coleman-white-dress-4.jpg and the dress was definitely too small for her.....and the whole day was a free show of VPL for my guests......OMG Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
